The healthy-food-near-me.com reader definitely did not expect such a turn of events in her family. And now she does not know how to get rid of her imposed “sister”.
My mother-in-law and I have been living together for the last two and a half years. No, my husband and I are by no means dependents, but nevertheless we moved in after the death of our father-in-law. Firstly, so that it’s not so hard for mom, and secondly, to quickly save up for her own housing. Now we set aside what we paid for rent for the mortgage payment. And everything was fine until …
Four months ago, like a bolt from the blue: the mother-in-law declares that she is pregnant. She is a well-groomed, beautiful woman, of course, you won’t give her 48 years. So the presence of her intimate life, in principle, does not surprise me.
And now solid “buts” begin!
Firstly, the baby does not have a dad. My husband’s father died three years ago: a heart attack. So this pregnancy is a “business trip”. The mother-in-law may know who the father is, but does not say his name. He says that it does not concern him.
Secondly, the age. Excuse me, but giving birth under fifty dollars ?! Yes, I know that today it is a normal practice and it is good, of course, that the body still works like a clock. However, it is not a fact that the baby will be born healthy. Everyone knows: the older the woman in labor, the greater the risk of genetic abnormalities. And if something happens to her herself, who will have to raise the baby?
Third, finance. Now she makes good money, but she does not know how to save at all. Therefore, she definitely does not have any savings – what will happen when she goes on maternity leave?
Do not think that it is me – such a bastard daughter-in-law. The husband is also in quiet shock from the situation. Imagine getting a newborn sister at the age of 26 with a deceased father.
We tried to talk to her. She just laughs it off.
– The retirement age has been raised, which means the reproductive age too.
And she said confidently:
– You will help me. And it’s not even scary to get sick, I know that you won’t leave the girl. There are no children of your own yet, take care of your sister.
Well, actually, we expected, on the contrary, that the grandmother would babysit the grandchildren. Moreover, two months after her, I became pregnant. So now you know what she came up with?
– Successfully, – he says, – it turned out. I’m going on maternity leave for a couple of months until you give birth. And then I’ll go back to work, and you will look after two. I hope you have enough milk for two.
And again he jokes: they say, the aunt will also be a foster sister to her nephew.
What?! If I wanted to work as a nanny, I would probably get a job. My husband and I have our first child – a welcome, long-awaited one. I don’t need other babies to add. I do not have any kindred feelings for the future “sister-in-law”, I do not understand this whim – to give birth at almost 50. And I certainly am not going to breastfeed other people’s children.
Now all I want is for her to leave us alone. But at the same time I feel a sense of guilt, after all, this is the husband’s mother, and the child is not to blame that she is like that. In the store, I even look for twin strollers to take both babies for a walk. And I perfectly understand that in the end the baby will still be my concern most of the time. I even thought about not taking out a mortgage yet and renting an apartment again. But now to leave a deeply pregnant mother-in-law at an age seems to me to be swinish. What would you do if you were me?