The followers of the Chinese Tao and Indian Tantra are well aware of this secret: by holding ejaculation and distributing sexual energy throughout the body, a man is able to prolong his pleasure, increase the quantity and improve the quality of lovemaking, thereby giving a woman more pleasure.
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Ejaculation – ejaculation – consists of two phases. The first is contraction of the prostate and preparation for the release of sperm into the urethra. The second is the eruption of semen from the urethra. In order not to come to the finish line too quickly, to prolong sexual intercourse and get new sensations, having experienced an orgasm without ejaculation, a man needs to learn how to control both phases: to feel how the prostate contracts, and to be able to delay ejaculation.
“To do this, you first need to strengthen the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle,” advises Taoist arts teacher Mantak Chia, author of Yes! Multi orgasm for men only. “It’s easy to spot: it’s the same muscle we use when we hold back urination when we can’t use the toilet. The more trained she is, the stronger the erection, the stronger the orgasm, and the more likely it is to stop ejaculation.”
In addition, a man needs to learn how to breathe correctly in order to distribute the energy increasing from the approaching orgasm throughout the body.
Stop then continue
Practice: with each urination, first stop the stream by squeezing the pelvic muscles, the main of which is the PC muscle, and then continue, increasing the pressure if possible. Repeat the exercise 3-6 times: your task is to perform these actions without much effort. “Retention is the first step to controlling ejaculation, because both urinary and seminal tracts pass through the same muscle group,” explains Mantak Chia.
Train your PC muscle
Take a deep breath and relax the PC muscle as much as possible. Then, inhaling deeply through your nose, strain it as much as possible. Repeat the exercise 10-12 times. To achieve the best effect, breathe more slowly, thereby prolonging the time of contraction and relaxation of the muscles. Repeat the exercise every day. It can be done in any position and at any time of the day, anywhere.
Breathe right
“Sit on a chair, keep your back straight, put your feet shoulder-width apart,” recommends Mantak Chia. – Place your hands on your stomach and relax your shoulders. Inhale through your nose and feel your abdomen expanding at the bottom and your belly puffing up. Relax the chest, exhale with some effort, straining the lower abdomen. Feel how your penis and testicles tighten up.
Repeat the exercise 18-36 times. Deep breathing promotes the circulation of sexual energy in the body, due to which your organs are saturated with it. And during sex, it helps to contain ejaculation and feel an orgasm all over the body.
Control your orgasm
Find half an hour for privacy, making sure that no one and nothing will disturb you during this time. Get naked, use massage oil, and caress your entire body to induce an erection. The purpose of this exercise is to open yourself, to concentrate on your feelings. Therefore, try not to be distracted by erotic memories – they will remove you from what your body feels.
Do not concentrate solely on the head of the penis, caress it entirely, massage the perineum, do not neglect the outer edges of the anus – there are many nerve endings there.
Change the rhythm and intensity of caresses. The meaning of this exercise is to gradually increase arousal, but not to provoke ejaculation.
When you feel that you are close to climax, stop stroking and inhale deeply from your belly. This will spread the sexual energy throughout the body and reduce it in the genital area.
Finally, when you feel completely ready for orgasm, try not to ejaculate. Stop stimulating the genitals. Exhale and inhale deeply, tighten the PC muscle as much as possible, hold your breath and tighten the rest of the body muscles – hips, buttocks, stomach, back, shoulders, arms, face. Count to ten, then relax and breathe deeply and slowly.
You will feel the contractions of the prostate, characteristic of orgasm, but ejaculation will not occur. In addition, you will find that even if your erection weakened after this “internal” orgasm, your sexual energy did not disappear anywhere, as it usually happens after an ejaculation.