Mstyulka — petty revenge, as a rule, not at the level of actions, but at the level of relationships or communication.
Resentment in response to “didn’t call and didn’t do it” (and why is he!). Negativity and frustration (you know how offensive?). Coldness and distrust (now I can’t trust you). Creating and cultivating guilt feelings (all because of you!). Disputes and objections (but out of principle!). The list is endless.
Mstyulka in communication is one of the reasons for the deterioration of relations, their transfer from collaborative to war.
What to do so that there are no mstyuleks?
The good news is that we most often take revenge unconsciously, on the machine — not from evil, but out of habit. This means that we can learn and get used to responding differently. How to do it?
- Carefully monitor yourself during the day, analyze your emotions.
Feel resentment, anger, anger, are you ready to say harshness? Do not hurry. Ask yourself: what goal do you want to achieve? Do you want to change a person, teach him to behave differently towards you? But then the negative will only hinder you, you will need another arsenal — patience, consistency, wisdom, calmness.
- Think about replacing your favorite mstiulki.
Used to being offended? — And today, instead of resentment, smile. Are you used to speaking harshly and defending yourself? “Today, instead, say a compliment.” Think well of people.
- Make it a rule for yourself to think only good things about people and nothing but good things for at least 10 minutes a day.
I wonder how long you can last?