Love is like confrontation. It is irrational and dangerous — at least for our sense of security, for sure.
There is no rational basis for love. Only the irrational, which is the most interesting thing in life. The unpredictability in a relationship is inspiring. But she is also dangerous. To love another person means to substitute yourself, to give you the opportunity to put a mine under you, which can explode at any moment. Most of us seek love unconsciously. We are inspired by parents, books, films: the time will come, and love will come. But to be honest, love is a confrontation. A man and a woman will never understand each other. Still, the mechanisms of the psyche and thinking are too different. We can only build versions — why our partner said so, did so. And this is already similar to the relationship of opponents. But rivalry can be exciting — if you find excitement in it, adrenaline that fuels energy. And if there is no love, you should not hold on to this duel.
* Sigmund Freud (1856–1939), neurologist, founder of psychoanalysis. Quote from the treatise «Dissatisfaction with Culture» («I» and «It», Azbuka, 2013).