The psychologist is sure that, first of all, one should forget about the “destiny of a woman” and the “ticking clock”.
Recently, actress Jennifer Aniston, who has no children, gave an interview in which for the first time she directly commented on this fact. The star admitted that she was aware of all the versions that can be found in the press, and stressed that none of them are true. The actress also explained that she is burdened by increased attention to this issue and considers the decision to be a purely intimate process. A woman, in her opinion, should not be subjected to pressure, because, perhaps, childbearing is not everyone’s destiny.
Mikhail Labkovsky, psychologist
These words of the Hollywood star are confirmed by the well-known psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky, whose recent post on Instagram directly calls on women to forget about the “ticking clock” and listen only to themselves in this important issue.
“Friends, today I want to talk about a very important topic, questions to which I receive with enviable regularity. The wording is as follows: “parents press,” “husband forces”, “what if it doesn’t work out later,” “doctors advise,” and so on. This is, as you know, about children, ”Mikhail began.
Further, the psychologist identified the reasons for the birth of children, guided by which, people are most often disappointed in their decision:
“A lot of people give birth to children because it’s time,“ it’s necessary ”to keep a man next to them, because relatives are dripping on the brain. Another popular reason is “I feel empty”. This is from the series “Let’s get a puppy or a baby”. All of these reasons lead straight to disappointment. Constant fatigue, unwillingness to cope with parental responsibilities, and often – and aggression towards the baby. And he, by the way, is completely innocent. “
The real readiness for the birth of a child, according to Mikhail Labkovsky, should be determined by a sincere and conscious need to have one.
“You need to give birth to a child only when you want a child and are ready to share. When you feel such a fullness inside that you want to give life and happiness to another person. When there is a need to take care, protect, educate, deal with him, devote a lot of time to the baby. When there is a willingness that your life will change completely. Are you ready for sleepless nights? For dramatic lifestyle changes? Even to the fact that you have to give up for the sake of the child a number of things that are familiar to you? If you answered “yes” to yourself, this is normal, adequate motivation. “
Interview
Do you agree with the opinion of Mikhail Labkovsky?
Yes! This is a personal matter and you only need to listen to yourself.
No. Motherhood is the mission of every woman
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