The well-known psychologist has more than once given advice to mothers on his Instagram page about parenting, and even about the time when it is better to give birth to children. And with the beginning of the school year, questions about schoolchildren were again ripe. Mikhail Labkovsky has already talked about how to do homework with children more than once. But since questions come to direct, then it’s not a sin to repeat it.
“Every time I sit down with my child to do homework, a nightmare begins. I barely sit him down. When I persuade, he makes a bunch of mistakes, and eventually comes to a showdown and even to a scandal, ”the psychologist quotes the letter from the exhausted mother.
According to Mikhail Alexandrovich, this situation is very common (and we agree with him) and very simple. The psychologist offered a very simple explanation for why the nightmare begins:
“The child does not want to do homework, because when he does them, mom is hysterical. He makes 10 mistakes in one sentence because he is tense and scared. Try to write at least something yourself, if a person stands over you and carefully watches how you print letters (and even starts yelling if you suddenly make a mistake). “
Labkovsky firmly stands his ground: there is no need to do homework with the child. To understand how a schoolboy feels when his mother is standing over him with the eternal Cerberus and watching every movement of the pen, the psychologist advised to imagine the following situation: you write a quarterly report, and the boss is standing next to you, checks every column and swears if you make a blot or wrong number.
“And he also periodically yells, threatens with dismissal, fines, and just insults during the whole process. Well, will the report go fine? ” – asks Labkovsky.
There is another example – with a kind and adequate boss who praises for every correctly written letter, gently and patiently corrects mistakes, gently but persistently advises how to do better. So it’s much nicer to write a report, isn’t it?
“Just keep in mind: in this hypothetical situation, you can still quit and find a normal boss. And the child is not. Now you understand why you don’t need to do homework with your child? ” The psychologist asks.
By the way, if you still prefer to keep the whole process of preparing homework under control, then read HERE how to do it without tears and scandals.