Men’s opinion: why do we need old-fashioned courtship

Why do we go out of our way to impress a potential partner? Why revive courtship? There are several reasons for this.

1. They allow you to build strong relationships.

Traditionally, it is believed that a man should look after a woman. We are conquerors by nature. But I often hear the question: “Why do I need this?” If you do spectacular things just to get a reward, this is false motivation that will not make you better. But the desire to do something special for a woman has two positive side effects.

• Next to you will be a psychologically mature woman with self-esteem, who accepts courtship only from those who treat her with respect.
• With her, you can build a long-term relationship, create a family, because she has the necessary qualities for this.

2. They help you become more successful.

These are selfless acts that we do for another person without expecting anything in return. We make an effort to bring joy to someone. In the process, we get to know this person better, and we get to know ourselves much better: what we aspire to, what we are capable of, what we want.

We begin to see and understand the world around better, we realize what people need for happiness and how we can help. This is how we help ourselves: we establish useful connections, build relationships, and get new opportunities. And, of course, those around you will be more willing to offer help and support to those who help those in need.

3. They build trust

Trust is one of the most important factors in a relationship, and its absence leads to collapse. By truly caring for a woman, a man lays the foundation for future relationships. They do not arise on their own, a lot of time and effort has been invested in them. It’s like building a house.

A relationship built without trust and friendship is a house built on sand. It may look good on the outside, but it won’t stand up to the weather. If a woman sees that you yourself want to lay a solid foundation for a relationship, she will have less doubts about the future together. She will have confidence in you.

4. They improve intimacy

Courtship helps build a stronger emotional bond. If you’ve started dating or decided to try the «friendship with benefits» option, the bond will be weaker. What’s with the sex? The stronger the emotional connection, the stronger the physical connection, especially for women.

Intimate life is built not only on the physical attractiveness of a partner and similar preferences in bed. It depends more on whether you show each other affection through romantic acts and attention to the needs and desires of a loved one.

5. They will be the key to success in finding a partner.

Many of us are so obsessed with looking for the «perfect» partner in all respects that we may miss the one who would be perfect for them. I often hear from men that women do not appreciate their efforts and this discourages any desire to continue. This is understandable, but it is more important to realize that if a woman is repulsed by your efforts, then this is simply not your woman, and you are lucky to understand this immediately, and not 20 years later in the office of a divorce lawyer.

The person who suits you will appreciate all your efforts. The courtship process helps us understand if we can build a future with this partner.

Relationships start quickly, but often break up after a couple of months. We complain that the partner has changed, «showed his true face.» This is not so — no one changed, did not hide their individuality and did not pretend to be good. We just rushed and didn’t bother to really get to know the person.

Courtship makes it possible to understand whether the person is really the one with whom we want to be, with whom we are ready to overcome any difficulties together. These questions should be answered before associating life with another. By doing so, you show respect for a potential partner and for yourself.