Men’s opinion: why are women unhappy?

A new study from the National Health Service shows that women feel more miserable than men, and for almost their entire lives. Or rather, until the age of 80, when most of their companions are already leaving for another world. The picture is not very inspiring: women remain unhappy until their men die … It sounds unflattering for men, but for women it is even worse — they are real poor things.

The story of Weinstein (Harry Weinstein, a Hollywood producer accused of sexual harassment) showed us that men in power can be a threat. But now it turns out that the most ordinary men are also toxic. Let’s not forget the context: according to statistics, men are three times more likely to commit suicide. But when it comes to daily dissatisfaction with life, here women are ahead of us in all respects.

For any person who shares any feminist beliefs, this is indisputable proof that men are a punishment and a burden. And in addition, they are also selfish, which make women unhappy.

24% of women aged 45 to 54 can be classified as mentally ill. Keith Lovett, dean of the Royal College of Psychiatrists, adds that these days, «the burden of housework and family care is largely on women.» In old age, women do not feel so unhappy, because they no longer have to take care of children and elderly parents. It turns out that the only one who still poisons their lives is their husband.

Further analysis of the obtained figures confirms that the problem is in men. Over the age of 65, men are more likely than women to experience mental problems — 19% and 14%, respectively. The fact is that single men, widowed or divorced, are more likely to become depressed.

See the difference? For women, the opposite is true: it is the married ones who are more likely to feel unhappy.

A very noteworthy comment was left under the article talking about the above study. It was about a grandmother who hated her husband so much that when he went to the toilet, she would beat his chair in anger as if it were him.

As a man, I feel compelled to offer some alternative explanation for why our wives are unhappy. Psychometric analysis shows that women—regardless of the culture to which they belong—have the most pronounced four categories of the famous “big five” personality traits: agreeableness, conscientiousness, neuroticism, and extraversion. Let me remind you that the fifth category is openness to experience.

However, the difference between women and men here is insignificant. The only exception is neuroticism. The term is often misunderstood as «hysteria» or «hypersensitivity». In fact, it means something like «vulnerability.»

So, women, whether in Spain, Sweden or Saudi Arabia, are much more prone to negative emotions and experience grief, threats, punishment and isolation more acutely. This phenomenon is noted in all cultures, so it can be assumed that this is an innate trait.

After all, if you dream of something perfect, you will be disappointed. But even aside from psychometrics, there are other reasons why middle-aged women might feel miserable.

There is little pleasure in menopause. And the gradual loss of physical attractiveness of women is probably more difficult than men. For women, this is usually a matter of paramount importance.

I don’t want to make excuses for men. Although no, I would like to. Perhaps our ability to run away from responsibility is one of the reasons why we can enjoy life more. Maybe women feel unhappier than men because they force themselves to high moral standards. I think it’s better to be happy than good.

Women should try to live like this. They will be surprised how grateful their partners will be to them, because this will lighten the eternal burden of male guilt. And the women themselves will have more fun.

Not to mention the fact that you don’t have to clobber your husband’s chairs and then change the upholstery: what a savings!