Men and women

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Men and women differ from each other, and not only in the structure of their bodies. There are male and female — two poles between which we live with you, concrete people. Once society becomes more masculine, and then both men and women are dominated by masculine traits. Once upon a time, society becomes more feminine, and then female manifestations become natural for almost everyone.

Modern society, especially since the 60s, has become more and more feminine.

At the same time, most of the differences between men and women are nothing more than conventional wisdom, established judgments. There are much fewer real differences, and each must be discussed. For centuries, woman has been a second-class being, inferior to man. The church, the state, men spoke about this, and many women themselves believed in it. It was a woman’s business to stay at home, nurse the children and obey her husband. The intelligence of a woman was a priori considered lower than that of a man. It was the undisputed truth.

In some ways, this all resembles the opinion that existed a couple of centuries ago that a white person is qualitatively better than a black one. Now it seems racist, savagery, but then it was a matter of course.

Over the past century, the position of women has significantly leveled off. At the very least, a woman has the opportunity to earn on a par with a man, which means to be independent. Now at the level of the law there are practically no differences in rights between a man and a woman. However, many restrictions are still firmly held in the head, being transmitted at the level of social norms. A century-old plume can still be discerned today.

The main differences between male and female psychology

The difference in the psychology of two men can be greater than the difference between a man and a woman. This is true, but any leader knows that the male team is different from the female team, that men are better at managing the position of a manager, and it is better to take a woman to work as a cashier. There is a male and female style of solving problems, there is a male and female parenting style, there are male and female entertainment. We are different. The features of the psychology of men and women, researchers often include the following …

Male and female — not as a biological sex, but as a gender — clearly manifests itself in a variety of areas. There is a male and female style in science, men and women have different views on personality, personal growth and development, they have different needs for love, men and women have different attitudes towards treatment…

With age, due to natural hormonal changes, women increase the number of masculine traits and characteristics (male voice, determination), and in men — female ones (female butt and breasts, willingness to shed a tear …).

At the same time, each man and each woman has their own profile of typically male and female characteristics. It is really important for one man to be obeyed, and immediately, but he is calm about the woman’s desire to “just chat, share.” Another man is calm about the advice of a woman, where it is more correct to carry a suitcase on wheels, but reacts violently when it comes to the woman’s head to change the agreements that seem to have already been reached. The same individual characteristics are characteristic of women. And the very first step to understanding each other and building strong mutually inspiring relationships is to cultivate feedback, gladly inform your partner and receive from her (from him) information about the important features of your profiles.

For us, as practitioners, the most important question remains — what to do with these different profiles of our clients? Support, even emphasize the gender difference between men and women, teach them to distribute areas of responsibility based on natural predisposition — according to the principle of addition? Or to teach them to master the models of behavior-thinking-feeling each other on the principle of mutual enrichment?

Apparently, the solutions may be different. For people who are not too prone to personal development (they don’t want to, they’re not used to it, their personal potential is not too high), the path of mutual adaptation, a kind of “division of labor” based on gender characteristics, will be quite suitable. In this case, we teach people to adapt, not to step on each other’s favorite gender calluses.

For people with a higher personal potential, striving for personal development, we can offer a different way — the development of their gender personal profile (which is very important — while maintaining strong natural, natural features!) In the direction of mastering the gender characteristics of their neighbor. For example, a man happily learns from a woman to dream, which becomes the basis for setting ambitious life goals. A woman, in turn, learns from a man certainty in statements, which helps her solve many issues easier and faster — both in personal and business life. And this is a different path — the path of mutual development, when we do not so much adapt, adapt to each other as we gladly help each other to expand the range of our traditional gender behavior-thinking-feeling!

Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov

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