If a girl is 18 years old and she is late for a date with a young man in love, this does not bother her: the Princess is not late, she is late. It’s okay, they’ll wait! She knows she has the right. And if he is late for 5 minutes, rest assured, she will not wait for him. Or he will wait only to arrange an exemplary scandal for him and enjoy it.
And a woman at 30, interested in arranging her personal life, will no longer be late for a meeting with a millionaire from Switzerland, despite the fact that our millionaire may suddenly be late for half an hour: “Please forgive me, there were important things!” And she will understand this, because in this scenario she is no longer the queen, but he is the King. And if she does not understand this and, considering herself still the Queen, will make him a scandal, it will be inadequate: our millionaire will apologize to her again, but at the same time he will say goodbye. There will be no next meeting.
Why can a girl in the first situation afford a lot, and a woman in the second — a little? Because in the first situation, the young man is more interested in meetings, and in the second situation, the woman. And what determines the high or low interest? There are several reasons for this, but the main one is the price in the marriage market. The young man in the marriage market is still NOBODY and his name is NOTHING, while the girl is the Princess, dear little thing. No one looks at him, but many look at her. He has no or almost no interesting choices, and a girl can choose and snort. And even more so 20 years later, if a woman is already under 40, and her counterpart is a sporty-looking millionaire from Switzerland, their roles have changed exactly the opposite. The demand for her is small, the competition is deafening, and the millionaire can leisurely choose from the list of smiling women who are ready for anything for him …
Each of us in the marriage market has its own value and only those rights that correspond to its market price. You are more expensive — you can afford more. Your price is falling — you have to accept that you can no longer claim what was previously natural for you. If you cannot or do not want to accept it, you will be alone. Or one.
Suffer — or raise your price in the marriage market?
Each of us has a different price in the marriage market. If you complain that you meet women — good friends, smart and decent, but not sexually attractive to you, then most likely you simply do not pull on more interesting women. You are not interested in them. In order for the Muse, the Queen to become interested in you, you yourself must be in the rank of King.
Interpersonal and especially family relationships are built better if both partners evaluate each other as an equal, as people of approximately equal value in the marriage market.
Reader’s story
I want to talk about the youngest. He met a girl for a long time, his first school love. I understood that this was not the best option, but none of my beliefs worked. And when the girl broke off the relationship, we had a great tragedy at home and a world-wide sea of sadness. She did everything she could. But back then, knowledge was not enough.
At this time, Nikolai Ivanovich arrived in Kyiv with trainings. I read his books for a long time and introduced them to my friends and son. I decided to go and always with my son, or rather for the sake of my son. The training was called «Leadership and Leadership». I wanted to involve my son in the family business and set new life goals. There were about 30 participants in the group, of which only 4 were women. Mostly young guys — businessmen aged 30. There was an atmosphere of leadership, everyone showed an active position. Such a number of young guys with such vital signs inspired me very much. My youngest was the youngest. He was pushed and encouraged, and given pendels. Nikolai Ivanovich came up and said the right words at the right time. As a result, the son came home with burning eyes. He concluded and voiced that personal relationships are not the only entertaining activity in the world. Signed up and started going to training. The back was leveled, pumped up, became more self-confident. I started reading business books. The book «The Formula for Success» inspired me to plan my time every day. Now he is a serious assistant in the family business.
I think, thanks to these changes, he had a lot of familiar girls — girlfriends. They call, consult, invite, send greetings from their parents. Has the price increased in the marriage market? It is obvious.