The control of the master is worth a lot, only in this way does the apprentice become a real master.
download video
Not everyone likes the work style of this leader, but his behavior is completely controlled by him, and his emotions are under complete control.
download video
Control is different. Control can be external and internal (self-control), periodic and total, only collecting information and correcting, intervening in the course of what is happening, helping and punishing, expensive and cheap, excluding all other processes or flowing like a thin thread against the background of spontaneity and love.
If you believe that you determine your own behavior, you have an internal locus of control.
It is widely believed among psychotherapists that control kills spontaneity, that control breeds stiffness and neurotic manifestations. Is it so? Reality is more interesting and more complex. Control is not bad at all, it all depends on who controls what controls and how it controls. If control works for the desired result for a person, this is excellent control. I control both my relatives and my employees so that they are not too lazy to be independent. If the one who controls is reasonable and caring, then the more loving person — his control is joy and good. The more such control, the better, because such control gives a person more attention, more support and tips.
Is it necessary to control where the child spends his pocket money? Certainly. First, you agree with the child what you give him money for (as much for transport, so much for food, so much for entertainment), then you must understand how successfully your child manages to spend money correctly. At the same time, smart control is always differentiated control. Something you will track (what if?) as absolutely unacceptable (money for poppy seed buns spent on hashish), something as acceptable (money for poppy seed buns spent on jam buns), and something as an opportunity joy (your child saved money for buns with poppy seeds and bought a bouquet of beautiful flowers for his mother’s birthday).
The control of freedom deprives an independent person, and opens the way to freedom for a non-independent person. Through study and external control, the little person becomes competent, acquires self-control and acquires the right to freedom and independence. Gets big and mature.
The right to self-control is the right to independence. Where you are controlled, you are not trusted with complete independence. If you are controlled unnecessarily, win your independence. On the other hand, where a person is not wealthy, control by a competent person is not a nuisance, but a service.
If interaction is needed, but no one is trusted, people tend to step up control. From this point of view, control and trust are opposite poles: the less trust, the more control. On the other hand, with competent control, the possibility of greater trust appears, and then sufficient control, sufficiently high control ensures maximum trust in the interaction between people.
It is important to understand that control is not necessarily a ban. Control does not necessarily prohibit, control also prescribes. A high-level manager (and just a developed person) has all emotions under control, and this is not just normal, but necessary and good. Qualitative control of emotions helps not to be lazy and turn on the necessary emotions, to always be emotional, but emotional as it should be.
Unless, of course, it is the control of a wise person and works for reasonable goals.