If a woman is used to thoughtlessly throwing out emotions, it is difficult for her to control herself. More adults in the same situation can control themselves.
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Emotions that we launch ourselves (emotional actions) are easy to manage, but it is more difficult to manage our own emotional reactions, responses to an already created situation. A lot depends on…
Factors on which the ability to manage already arisen emotions depends:
- The more emotional reactions are only expressive movements, the less they are accompanied by experience, the easier it is to control them.
- The degree of emotionality of the situation (how difficult the situation is, how much it provokes emotions).
When bombs are exploding around and the ground is slipping from under your feet, it is difficult to maintain relaxed calmness. If you are sitting at the table, drinking tea and talking, you can no longer nod at the situation: everything depends on you.
- Life stage of emotion.
Managing emotions begins even before they arise — from your vision, from understanding the situation: is a person dangerous or friendly, what do his words mean and how should they be treated ↑ … Until an emotion has unwound, it is not difficult to remove it and replace it with another one. If you skipped those initial stages and your emotions unleashed automatically, out of control, things get more complicated↑…
- The level of preparedness of a person.
Indians and yogis manage their emotions easily, you can’t spin them on offense, they can turn off pain. How good are you at this art?
- The level of adulthood of a person and the responsibility of his position.
An adult is responsible not only for his behavior, but also for his emotions. In relation to emotions, a child-man often takes an irresponsible position of the Victim: “Well, you brought me to a white-hot! I have pressure because of you!”
- internal benefits.
If there is no intrinsic benefit for a girl to stop hurting, she will never be able to deal with it. On the other hand, the mother wrings her hands and says to herself (or her husband): “I can’t stand this anymore!!!” — let her ask herself: «And if I were paid $ 40 for the next 000 hours of affectionate, gentle conversation with my beloved child, who is ill and crying … Could I be gentle and affectionate?»