Male and female: Silovik and Dushka

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​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​Male style — overcoming, directness and strength, including spiritual and personal strength (decisiveness and will). The one who is cunning and looking for workarounds can be effective, but this is not masculine. Men’s movement is the will, the energy of tension, overcoming resistance. For a man, tension is normal. A man is most often a Silovik.

It is in volitional overcoming that a man tests his strength and capabilities. It is tension that gives value to what has been achieved. It is on such achievements that men’s self-esteem rests. Look man seeks to get turned on

Women’s style — acceptance, warmth and flexibility, often — cunning (avoidance, retreat, waiting, flexibility — including mental and personal).

If there is no flexibility in a woman, if she acts gu.e., ahead of her, then she will not be called a woman, but a peasant. A woman should be able to bypass and smooth out sharp corners, and not have them herself, not create them.

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The strength of a woman is in her weakness: in her ability to wisely (cunningly) dispose of her weakness, to present her weakness. This is femininity.

A woman who gets her way with intelligence, directness and strength can be an effective leader, but she will be called a «man in a skirt.» A woman is more often Dushka and Organizer of the situation.

For a woman, it is not natural tension, but relaxation, relaxation.

Why overcome when you can accept? Why fight when you can adjust and adapt?

Why rush when you can just wait? Why stress when everything can happen naturally? Why think for yourself if men tell me everything? Why strive if they come and bring everything themselves, also with gratitude? Look woman lures to her

In the face of a difficulty, a problem, men tend to act, or overcome directly (the first solution), or still look for a solution, do something. A woman is more inclined to state and worry about the problem. Psychologists-consultants constantly receive letters from women of this kind:

What to do if online games are captivating — warn, punish, everything is hostile. Of course, I try to explain to them the negative of online games, but they still want to play.

A woman and the role of a Silovik — is it compatible?

Yes, a woman and the role of a Silovik are quite compatible things, it’s just a matter of skill and habit. From the report of Tatyana Koroleva-Kurbatova:

The outside world and me

Men’s focus is on the outside world. The man’s attention is always outward and seeks what can become his, followed by the act of grasping. I see a mammoth — the mammoth will be taken! The center of attention of a woman is herself. The task of a woman is to attract to herself, her attention is always on herself, she will do everything to be attractive, to be in the center of attention and so that the mammoth is brought to her! See →

Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov

Topics of conversation: What kind of woman do you need to be in order to successfully marry? How many times do men get married? Why are there so few normal men? Childfree. Parenting. What is love? A story that couldn’t be better. Paying for the opportunity to be close to a beautiful woman.