Male and female jealousy are phenomena of a different nature. If a woman is confident in her partner’s love, the fact of physical infidelity may be indifferent to her. However, a woman is almost impossible to convince that physical intimacy cost without feelings.
A woman is a synthetic being (not in the sense that she is pumped up from all the convex sides with polymers, but in the sense that the principle of female consciousness is synthesis). Separation for female perception is practically inaccessible.
That is why a woman never falls for men’s assurances that sex and love are different things. The world of a woman is so synthesized that it can eventually fit in the point of her «I», that is, in the hole where a woman seeks to send everything she likes.
The principle of a man’s consciousness is analysis, that is, division into parts. When «Bordeaux Thodol» characterizes masculinity as sympathy, she does not mean anything like sentimentality. The perception of the world by a man is an act of transferring the “I”, connecting with one or another attitudes — numerous role-playing games.
A man, even if he is Othello, easily believes that a woman who has changed continues to love him. However, this fact alone is disappointing for him. A man can go insane from a humiliating defeat and anger at the woman who set him up.
However! If the opponent begins to actively seek the hand and heart of a woman, a man can reconsider his attitude and feel like he is not a loser, but a winner (after all, the woman stays with him). In this case, he will stop suffering because of the betrayal that has taken place and will only monitor the prevention of a new one.
If a rival is inferior to a man in all significant role-playing games (financially insolvent, socially inferior, physically weaker), a man can survive the betrayal of a loving woman almost painlessly. The same attitude towards treason arises in one whose opponent is many times superior to him. The courtiers calmly endured the relationship of their wives with the kings. Roman emperors treated the sex of their loved ones with the plebs in the same way.
Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov
Topics of conversation: What kind of woman do you need to be in order to successfully marry? How many times do men get married? Why are there so few normal men? Childfree. Parenting. What is love? A story that couldn’t be better. Paying for the opportunity to be close to a beautiful woman.