Make a wish for the New Year correctly!

I teach Taoist practices, and the Taoist tradition is very close to me in its ideology: it is aimed at success. It is generally accepted that oriental practices: exercises, meditations, breathing techniques are associated with leaving society. In the Taoist tradition, on the contrary, a successful practitioner is one who is fully realized in society: successful, wealthy, happy.

In the Taoist tradition, there are certain rules that help move towards the goal. And the basis of this path is the correct goal setting.

On the importance of wording

Many of us are accustomed to associate happiness with possession: a living space, a car, a certain amount of money. Yes, and in our personal lives, we formulate desires like this: I want a child, I want a rich husband.

In the Taoist tradition, the goal is formulated as “I want to be …” or “I want to be able to …”, and not “I want to have.” Why?

A simple example. One day my friend articulated what she wanted in the coming year: a private jet and a villa on an island. She wrote down this desire and regularly reminded herself and the world around her of it.

And what happened? In the same year, a friend invited her to visit: on a private jet, to stay at her husband’s island villa.

Everything came true! But … as a result, my friend did not become happy.

“I want to be…”, “I want to be able to…” are tasks that objectively (tested for centuries!) are worth spending energy and attention on. These are goals that will bring worthy results.

“I want to be a happy mom!” is a wonderful task. “I want to have a baby” – it would seem the same thing, but no! You can give birth to a long-awaited child, but you cannot become a happy mother. Some women only 3-5 or even 10 years after the birth of a child begin to understand what happy motherhood is, and before that they just get tired and want to sleep.

Another example: a friend dreamed of buying an apartment. And what? The apartment appeared, but then there is no money for repairs, then you have to leave for work in another city. As a result, the apartment is standing, and the girlfriend lives in removable corners. “I want to become the mistress of my own house” – this is her real dream, which has not yet been formulated and therefore will never come true.

New year with a new dream

Think about what you really want. Try to imagine what your happiness looks like. What kind of person will you be when you get what you want. Immerse yourself in this new state. The one whose dream came true is already a slightly different person, not quite you! Feel how and with what he lives.

Make a wish using the wording “I want to be …”, “I want to be able to …”, “I want to learn …”. Write this phrase on a piece of paper and put it where it will often catch your eye (for example, in your wallet). Let it become a regular reminder of the direction in which you are moving.

And act!

Believe me, wishes come true very quickly. Very soon you will have to write a new task on a new piece of paper.