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To force — to break resistance. In spite of resistance, induce the desired behavior in a forceful way: by tough demand, direct threat, open pressure. Silovik tactics.

In contrast to “force”, which is rather stretched and covered with something, force is more direct, open, prompt and direct. See Coerce and Force

Forcing is even more different from «pressing» — you can also press on the pliable, and «forcing» is always to act against resistance.

It is interesting that women really do not like to force them in interaction with children — and they avoid this in every possible way. Psychologists-consultants constantly receive letters from women of this kind:

“What if online games are taking over — warn, punish, everything is hostile. Of course, I try to explain to them the harm of online games, but they still want to play.”

Men solve such situations simply by giving orders and, without talking, stop the wrong behavior of children. They do not even force, because they do not even internally consider the possibility of resisting their orders. They simply put things in order, just as a woman puts things in order by dusting. She doesn’t make the dust disappear, she just wipes the dust and cleans up. See details →

It can be said that “to force is to press with internal tension from the fear of resistance.”

The one who assumes that his proposal will cause resistance, rejection and protest is trying to force. True, but rejection and protest more often arise not at the proposal itself, but at its form, at the form of pressure and coercion. See →

The desire to force

Sometimes people strive to force even where it is possible to resolve the issue gently, kindly. Why? What for? Most of the reasons fit into the four causes of conflict behavior, namely fear of failure, attention seeking, power struggle and revenge. See →

Feelings That Make You Feel: Martyr’s Pose

Experiencing suffering that you are forced to is a bad habit or a manipulative game. If a person does not like what he will need to do, he can play (enter the state) of the Martyr or the Sufferer (Victim pose). Sometimes this stops the one who forces (he is already becoming a Torturer and Aggressor), and if he doesn’t stop, then he will at least be a revenger. See →

How to force yourself

In a good way, you don’t have to force yourself. You have to force yourself to those who internally protest against the fact that something needs to be done. If you live without internal protest, live on the positive, then you simply choose from what is necessary: ​​to do this or that. See →