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I want love — love behind which I want (hochulka). Its more official name is Consumer Love. Love-want is a type and way of love, where I am primarily concerned about my interests, needs and desires.
I want to have you, I want to receive from you, I want you to love me!
Love-want is a manifestation of the first position of perception. See Love and Perceptual Positions
It opposes (or complements) Love-I want — I give love, giving love.
Adult people are ready for their own. I want to pay, the man-child only whines, cries and demands.
Pros and cons of love-want
The advantages of love-want are, as a rule, high energy, sincerity with openness, which invigorates and excites both the lover and the beloved.
Cons — selfishness, which is restrained only by culture, if it exists. And in the absence of culture, love-want just gives rise to the whole bouquet of passion, severe jealousy, fear of loss and hatred in case of refusal. With the fear of declaring one’s own I want, heavy experiences and neuroses are born, with refusal — frustration and depression.
Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov
Topics of conversation: What kind of woman do you need to be in order to successfully marry? How many times do men get married? Why are there so few normal men? Childfree. Parenting. What is love? A story that couldn’t be better. Paying for the opportunity to be close to a beautiful woman.