Two people lie in bed, but the blanket is not enough for two, and it seems to each that he is colder than the other.
Everyone pulls the blanket over themselves, and they are ashamed of it, but they are also afraid to freeze. They have a way out — to hug, then there will be enough blankets, and they will warm each other. But it’s hard to do so because they don’t trust each other. This is a metaphor for a codependent relationship. Priest Andrei Lorgus and psychologist Olga Krasnikova expose the fears and prejudices (for example, identifying self-love with selfishness, and self-abasement with self-abasement) that prevent us from understanding ourselves and others. In a codependent relationship, the two are not connected to each other, but to the relationship as such: “it doesn’t matter who you are, as long as you are with me.” The opposite of dependence is love, which is understood not only as a feeling, but as an act, an active interest in another.
Nicaea, 256 p., 373 rubles.