Love: feeling or responsible behavior?

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For an experienced person, love is a feeling, complemented by knowledge and action. Feelings come and go, and that is not the responsibility of the individual. For the Doer, love is no longer a feeling, but a responsible behavior. I took responsibility — I do it: love.

For a responsible person, love is not only a feeling, but also a responsible behavior at the same time. Caring behavior for which he is responsible. For certain behavior (for love as behavior) a commitment can be given: See Commitment «Ten Years»

As a responsible behavior, love can be both a skill and a habit.

Love as a skill and habit

To love (strongly or for a long time) is a skill that can be mastered. Like any skill, love presupposes abilities (sometimes there is a talent to love), the development of skills, the formation of skills (“I love already easier, simpler, more joyful!”) And the transition of a skill into a habit.

As long as there is no acquired skill, love as a giving relationship is accidental, unstable and situational. In an unsuccessful scenario, the ability, skill and habit of living without love can be developed.

In a successful variant, love, as a way of being, becomes a habit. «Love is my way of life and the rhythm of my breath.»

Love is a good family habit.

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Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov

Topics of conversation: What kind of woman do you need to be in order to successfully marry? How many times do men get married? Why are there so few normal men? Childfree. Parenting. What is love? A story that couldn’t be better. Paying for the opportunity to be close to a beautiful woman.