It is often believed that the one who loves more experiences more. This is not entirely true. It is not the most loving who suffer the most, but the most conceited—those whose vanity is wounded.
Here, the husband treats his wife as a familiar detail of the home environment: while she does everything around the house, she reacts indifferently, in no way (“Who else should do this? This is her women’s work”). But as soon as he noticed that an employee from work began to look after his wife, scandals and severe jealousy began. He is insulted in his best feelings: “You are not a wife, you are a whore!” — Note that he can not be called loving in any way. And self-love is sick, and this is the real reason for the experience.
Another typical cause of sick experiences is sick attachments. Attachment is not love, although it usually becomes a shadow of love, and often the support of love. However, it is sick attachments that are the source of deep mental pain.
The main misfortune here is that those who are hurt by attachment do not want to get rid of it … And the good news is that all this goes away on its own — just with time.
Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov
Topics of conversation: What kind of woman do you need to be in order to successfully marry? How many times do men get married? Why are there so few normal men? Childfree. Parenting. What is love? A story that couldn’t be better. Paying for the opportunity to be close to a beautiful woman.