It is not always easy to talk about love and decency with business people. But interesting.
Vladimir Klinkov, being trained by me, did it qualitatively, like everything he did. A successful publishing business, fluency in six languages, the ability to set and achieve goals … — he was ahead in everything. He perfectly covered all the main colors of the training course «Distance», showed simply phenomenal results in time tracking and planning, having gained the ability to report on the result of every 2 (two !!) minutes of his life.
Worthy!
And suddenly — they stumbled. The last exercise of «Distance» is «Love». “If I loved, how would I treat myself, people, things, life…” And Vladimir asked the question: “Why? Why should I love? What is the meaning of this exercise for me?
If Vladimir asked questions, they were not random, well thought out.
For other cadets of the «Distance» such a question did not exist. Women especially raged: “What for? Well, how without love?! Only if you love, life becomes beautiful, filled with real meaning! Vladimir was even, calm, reasonable: “I worked out the “Internal Good” exercise, my mood is always positive, I don’t have any questions about the meaning of life. In general, my personal life is of little interest to me, but why do I need to love in business? Emotional arguments crashed against him like a rock: he was a businessman and a rationalist.
Vladimir needed reasonable arguments, serious arguments. Well, as psychiatrists say, «every person must be spoken to in the format of his delirium.» That is, in his language. I suggested to him: “Vladimir, so far my proposals have been beneficial for you, do this as an experiment. You are talented, you will succeed in living with love without much difficulty, you will last a week. Live with love, report the results in a week. There is?» — «There is!».
Vladimir came two weeks later with eyes filled with love. “Love is great. Now I love with all my heart the clients who come to me, I conduct negotiations with love, especially difficult negotiations, I love my subordinates and colleagues with whom I have to deal. I report: on love alone, I made an additional four thousand dollars in the last week. Love is beneficial. When I love people, I manage to negotiate with them faster, clients bring money faster, I do things more willingly and get less tired. I included in my quarterly plan to instill love in my key employees, I want them to start loving too. Love is a very promising resource!”
“Every person should be spoken to in the format of his delirium…”
Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov
Topics of conversation: What kind of woman do you need to be in order to successfully marry? How many times do men get married? Why are there so few normal men? Childfree. Parenting. What is love? A story that couldn’t be better. Paying for the opportunity to be close to a beautiful woman.