Does it even exist? The study of British sexologists, who “closed” the mysterious G-spot, caused a lot of objections. The heated argument drew attention not only to her, but also to our perception of our own eroticism in general.
In January 2010, scientists from King’s College London released the results of their survey*. Thousands of such studies are published every year. Usually the public is completely indifferent to them. But this time it was different. The very next day, newspapers around the world dedicated their front pages to him. “The G-spot doesn’t exist!” headlines in all languages.
The study involved 1804 pairs of female twins aged 23 to 83 years. 56% reported that they have a G-spot. It was found, however, that their sisters do not always confirm the presence of this point. But it’s genetically impossible! Fraternal twins (twins) have 50% of the same genes, and identical twins have an identical set of genes. If one has a G-spot, the other must have it too. But in pairs of identical twins, there were no more coincidences in the answers about the G-spot – as it would be if this point really existed. The authors of the study, geneticist and epidemiologist Tim Spector (Tim Spector) and psychologist Andrea Burri (Andrea Burri) made a logical conclusion: “The G-spot is a completely subjective concept.”
Andrea Burri even accused sexologists of inventing this erogenous zone – and causing guilt in women who do not find it in themselves: “It is irresponsible to declare the existence of some object, the presence of which is not supported by any evidence, and thus put pressure on women who feel humiliated, inferior because they don’t fit in.”
Scientists, sexologists and … women responded indignantly to such statements – those who found their G-spot or hope to find it.
Beverly Whipple, an American sexologist who has written several popular books on the phenomenon, commented succinctly on the study: “You’re not born with a G-spot, you find it.”
Each woman is unique: she differs not only from others, but also from herself at a different age.
Why are passions so raging? According to sexologist Irina Panyukova, “there is no subject for dispute here – physiologically, everyone has a G-spot. Some are more pronounced, some less. And for some it can be expressed so weakly that it seems as if it is not there at all. But having said this, we have made no progress in understanding female pleasure. First of all, it is important to remember: every woman is different from others and from herself at a different age. For example, the sensitivity of the breast is different for different women, and sometimes it also changes depending on the period of the menstrual cycle. The fact that one woman gives pleasure and serves as a source of positive emotions, another can be unpleasant.
“G” – like Grafenberg
The discoverer of the G-spot was Ernst Gräfenberg, a German gynecologist, creator of the intrauterine contraceptive.
In 1950, in “The Role of the Urethra in the Female Orgasm,”* Grafenberg described a new erogenous zone within the vagina. What research methods he used remains unknown. Grafenberg did not name this zone. In honor of the discoverer, the American sexologists Ladas, Whipple and Perry named her, who published the book The G-spot and Other Discoveries in the Field of Human Sexuality in 1982**. According to the authors, the G-spot is located on the anterior wall of the vagina (under the pubic bone) at a distance of 1–4 cm from the entrance. Its size varies from a few millimeters to several centimeters. Its fabric to the touch differs from neighboring fabrics – it is denser and wrinkled, like a soft walnut. There are various assumptions regarding its physiological nature. Some consider it the inner part of the clitoris, others consider it the remnant of the prostate, which did not form in the embryo of the girl, but existed until the moment when the sex of the child was determined.
* International Journal of Sexology, 1950. ** A. Ladas, B. Whipple, J. Perry. «The G-spot and other discoveries about human sexuality». New York: Holt, Rinehart, and Winston, 1982.
What would Freud say about this?
Although sexuality is the main axis of my teaching, I did not think of the G-point. I was sure that the leading erogenous zone in any woman is in the clitoris – in my time this was already a big discovery. Studying masturbation in little girls (you know, of course, that was very brave of me: any kind of masturbation was strictly condemned in my time, and the Jewish tradition of my childhood ee categorically forbade it), I found that the discharge of sexual arousal is expressed in them in pulsating contractions of the clitoris. And when an adult woman’s clitoris becomes aroused during sex, it transfers the excitement to neighboring parts of the genitals, like a sliver of resinous wood, which can ignite a harder and more stubborn fuel. By the way, I also talked about the fact that over time the erogenous zone shifts to the entrance to the vagina. From there, point G is within easy reach!”
Our society today is aimed at achieving quick results in everything. So it is in sex – men and women are sometimes carried away by the idea that it is enough to find the main point in the body to be convinced of their ability to give and receive pleasure. But the instrument of love is our whole body as a whole, and not its individual parts. “What exactly does not exist is a universal “button” that is enough to press to cause a female orgasm,” warns Irina Panyukova. – Orgasm is a natural and natural completion of an act of love. It can be achieved, but it cannot be “achieved”. The search for a universal mechanism that inevitably causes an orgasm is nothing more than an attempt to reduce proximity to mechanical action with a completely guaranteed result. And this emasculates the entire emotional essence of our sexual intimacy. How great the importance of feeling in sex is easy to see with a simple example. Imagine two similar men. Both do exactly the same thing, but a woman loves one of them, and not the other. With which of them will her sexual satisfaction be more complete? The specificity of female sexuality lies in the fact that every movement, every step, starting from the very first, matters here. To reach the peak of pleasure, a woman needs a gradual increase in excitement and emotional intensity.
Orgasm arises as a result of stimulation of the G-spot or because of caresses that extend to the entire surface of the skin, it is still the result of a consistent preparation of the body, the magic of random and deliberate touches, the awakening of emotions. You can discuss the G-spot – but it is important to remember that there is not one, but hundreds of erogenous points, sensory receptors that can transform sounds, caresses, smells and words into numerous erotic ups. Discoveries of new sensitive areas, games with unknown sensations make up the richness of our sex life. What if we put aside guidebooks and guides to finding a wonderful place and go in search of ourselves first?
A. Burri, L. Cherkas, T. Spector «Genetic and environmental influences on self-reported G-spots in women: à twin study». The Journal of Sexual Medicine. 2010, januar
The secret of a jet orgasm
According to the “defenders” of the G-spot, its stimulation leads to the strongest orgasm of a special type. Sexologist Irina Panyukova shares her opinion.
“The article by Grafenberg said that when stimulating the erogenous zone discovered by him, women experience a fundamentally new type of orgasm, which differs from the two known ones (clitoral and vaginal). It is accompanied by a sharp release from the urethra up to 150 ml of a clear liquid without color and odor. Grafenberg argued that this is not urine or lubricant, but the secretion of glands located inside the urethra. Popularizers of his discovery called this phenomenon “jet orgasm” or “female ejaculation.” Of course, there is no talk of real ejaculation: this secret has nothing to do with fertilization. Its other properties, as well as its origin, have not yet been sufficiently studied. But if the “fountain woman” is experiencing intense sexual pleasure, how important is it for her to know exactly what the chemical composition of this liquid is?