Loneliness

Loneliness is a state or life moments when a person is left alone physically (there are no people nearby) or mentally (there are no like-minded people nearby).

Once upon a time being alone is normal and good, many creative people strive to be alone, knowing how fruitful it can be. At the same time, loneliness as a way of life is not the most favorable state for a person, especially problematic for the elderly and men. Men complain about loneliness less often than women, but it is men who are most affected by loneliness. Men who live alone, without a reasonable environment, are more likely to descend and acquire bad habits: untidiness, nocturnal lifestyle, computer games and alcohol.

Women are more successful in coping with the situation of loneliness, but it is women who complain about loneliness most often. At the same time, a paradox has long been known — it is those who are most surrounded by people who most often complain about the feeling of loneliness. Feelings of loneliness are more often a problem in big cities than in small villages, and more often a problem of hanging out youth than busy adults. It seems that one of the reasons for feeling lonely is the desire to attract attention and feel sorry for yourself, especially since feeling sorry for yourself is easier than mastering communication skills.

A lively, active, active person, when he simply lacks contacts, simply goes to people. If he lacks deeper contacts, he himself shows a deeper interest in the chosen people. If there is no one to communicate with at all, you can do business, because if a person is busy with what he loves, he is in business, and not in experiences. To live longer, you need to communicate with loved ones, travel or find a mate.

Very often people experience a feeling of loneliness not “why”, but “what for”. Talking and experiencing loneliness is often used (perhaps unconsciously) to form attachments. “I feel so lonely, everyone left me, everyone betrayed me…” It is understood that the one who hears will not leave and will not betray, but rather will regret and help. Thus, most of the talk about loneliness is a variant of everyday manipulation. Behind the feeling of loneliness there can be a variety of things that a person may not be aware of. Fear of acting… Revenge on the one who offended… Desire to suffer in order to attract attention… Wrong lifestyle, crooked beliefs, functional or anatomical negativity — all these circumstances can be determined by a specialist psychologist only in a personal consultation. Often, people call the feeling of loneliness something that is rather distantly related to the feeling of loneliness: a variety of problems that they find it difficult or do not want to solve on their own.

For example, a girl experiences tactile hunger: the body wants activity, touch, and if not sex, then similar tactile interaction. The body wants to be dealt with — if desired, this can also be called a feeling of loneliness. How is it solved? Sign up for dancing, take a massage course, and this feeling of loneliness will suddenly pass …

Female loneliness is still a separate huge topic. Women more than men want to be in a relationship, and women often experience the absence of a close man as their loneliness and inferiority. Female loneliness is more of a feeling than a reality, because in reality the lifestyle of “single women” in fact may differ little from the lifestyle of women who have a family.

This desire to complain, which children also have: “Mom, everyone has a Barbie, only I don’t! Nothing to play at all!” — despite the fact that she has half a room of toys.

It is rather a game of melancholy, because the sadness of female loneliness is played more often by those women who sit and wait for the prince, instead of looking for contacts and being open to contacts. Complaining and feeling sorry for yourself is easier and more habitual than launching an active search for a partner. Telling that “there are no decent men” is easier than keeping a figure, always being attractive and, most importantly, always keep a smile on your face and positive in your soul.

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Loneliness harms human health much more than the disease of our time — obesity, such conclusions regarding older people were published by American scientists. Medical observations of two thousand volunteers lasted 20 years. Scientists note that if obesity carries a danger to the health of organs, then loneliness acts, first of all, on the human psyche. According to the «recipe» of doctors, in order to live longer, you need to communicate with loved ones, travel or find a mate.

Interesting: as long as you are under 50 years old, being happy is not difficult and alone. After 50, most people need to be in a couple or with grandchildren to be happy. Where is the data from? Employees of a large insurance company conducted a survey aimed at studying loneliness and feelings of happiness. As the results of the study showed, a person is able to feel happy being alone. But this feeling lasts only up to 50 years. The survey involved people who got married, as well as those who did not bind themselves by union. The latter, after reaching the age of 50, lost the feeling of happiness that was characteristic of them earlier, and began to regret being alone. This was admitted by 78% of respondents. At the same time, more than 60% of those who got married said they feel happy. In addition, the respondents confirmed that grandparents feel much better emotionally than their peers who do not have grandchildren.