Life is an integral part of people’s daily lives. This is cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing, and all this must be done daily. That’s horrible.
Or not?
Many believe and are simply convinced: «The everyday life kills relationships.» This has its own truth. If everyone in a couple tries to shift unpleasant things to the other, the relationship begins to strain, and the house becomes uncomfortable. Dirty dishes accumulate in the sink, the trash can remains unthrown, the refrigerator is empty. Yes, such an unsettled life is really a threat to relationships.
And in another family, life unites people. Life is just business, and business can be done together. If people love each other, they want to be close to each other, and household chores help them in this. This is a convenient excuse to say to another: «I love you and I’m glad to take care of you.»
Everything depends on the people. The point is not life as such, but the people who are engaged in this life. Well-mannered people who are able to hear each other will not make a scandal over an unwashed plate. Even if both are tired, it is not difficult to agree on how to resolve this issue today, and thank the other for the fact that he (or she) went to meet you.
How to negotiate specifically? Take the Family Contract Basics questionnaire and discuss all the issues that concern you. Then life will stop bothering you, and a loved one will begin to please you.
By the way, household chores can perfectly unite children and parents. All the same, they need to be done, which means they can be done together, which means that parents can teach children a lot, and at the same time communicate: find out how things are going, what makes them happy and what excites them. Household chores and everyday life are a wonderful pedagogical tool!