The scream makes you act: the body perceives this loud sound as a signal of danger, adrenaline is produced, the heart works more actively, and this allows you to quickly fulfill the desire of the manipulator. Tatyana Karkhanova, a specialist in the field of massage and wellness techniques, tells how we are controlled with the help of a tense-screaming atmosphere.
The very first and very effective way of social interaction, given to us from birth, is screaming. The child, coming into the world, declares its presence with a cry, riveting the attention of everyone who is in the field of action. Manipulation is very simple, since it has only two reasons: to express a desire or protest, requiring others to resolve this issue. As adults, we continue to use yelling to get others to do things.
It cannot be said that this manipulation has a negative character. This is a tool, it all depends on the purpose of its use. The range of application is wide. Under different conditions and for different reasons, but everyone screams without exception.
The boss yells at his subordinates. Goal: Requiring a quick action, it works. The adrenaline “fight or flight” response accelerates the heart. Subordinates, bound by the fear of suddenly losing their livelihood or position, resignedly scatter to follow instructions.
An excited person will gladly respond to a call to donate money to charity.
But what is the strength of the manipulator, that is his weakness. The person screams when the quieter arguments are exhausted. At this moment, the extreme point of his mental stress is visible. Consciously exacerbate the situation, leading to a nervous breakdown. And then use this unprotected state of emotional emptiness for your own purposes. Indeed, at this moment, your emotions and sober reasoning will be perceived as a helping hand. Confidence will arise that can lead to career or financial advancement.
Some television broadcasts create a tense-screaming atmosphere to get as much publicity as possible. Even people who are far from the chosen topic empathize, unable to take their eyes off the TV. At this point, they are easily provoked into action. Excited man looking for a solution to the problem. He will gladly respond to the call to donate money to charity or vote in support of the decision of the organizers of the project. Just to find an outlet for the provoked emotions. The hormonal process is started, and the person voluntarily participates in solving a problem that is not his own. The way out of this situation: if you don’t want to participate, don’t watch. If you’re watching, be prepared. If you want to organize a situation like this, make people scream about it.
Showdown. A quarrel between close people turns into a cry in defending their interests. When a silent request does not work, but a result is very necessary, shouting can increase motivation for action or indicate boundaries that cannot be crossed. Also, a cry in a relationship can be an attempt to dominate the strong over the weak. When a person encounters a misunderstanding, it seems to him that the opponent does not hear him, and then for penetration, the natural reaction is to increase the volume of the signal.
When we are shouted at, we almost cease to understand speech, the body sends a signal of danger. And if there is no goal or opportunity to get away from the annoying factor, then we obey, we try to fulfill all the conditions for restoring harmony. The one who knows how to scream turns out to be psychologically stronger and wins, even if he is wrong. And a person who is well versed in this method will use such a tool to suppress personality when he sees fit.
Shouting is justified in some cases with reasonable application
Such behavior cannot be assessed as bad, it is a method of interaction that can be used for good purposes: to improve the quality of life, to teach, to protect from danger.
A cry for help, like an alarm, can frighten an ill-wisher by sending an alarm signal into his neural connections. The same signal will provoke the manifestation of altruistic protection or care in people who are nearby. For many, this manifestation is suppressed due to the educated ethical standards of behavior. Although this reaction is very natural, it is based on the basic instinct of self-preservation. A friend of mine taught his daughter to scream in the street in order to overcome embarrassment. He believed that for a girl this is a more effective way of self-defense than the use of reciprocal physical force.
But the cry is still an active-defensive manifestation of aggression. It is justified in some cases with reasonable application, destructive in excess. At the level of physiological processes, crying actively provokes the production of stress hormones. On the universal level, it entails unpleasant consequences in the form of the destruction of various social structures. It must be used with great care, thinking about whether the ends justify the chosen means.