Is your friend in trouble, upset? “If you want to cheer him up, try to avoid wording with the word “just,” advises Dr. Jon Allen, chief psychologist at the Menninger Clinic (USA). – “Just think positive”, “Just forget about him (her)”…
Is your friend in trouble, upset? “If you want to cheer him up, try to avoid wording with the word “just,” advises Dr. Jon Allen, chief psychologist at the Menninger Clinic (USA). — «Just think about the good», «Just forget about him (her)» … It is impossible to get rid of experiences with one effort of will. When we say harmless “just”, the interlocutor feels that we downplay the difficulties that he will have to face, devalue his efforts. The word «simple» brushes aside the seriousness of the problem. To help a friend, it is better to act gently and without pressure: invite him, say, to drink coffee … and listen without giving advice.