Left and right emotionality

Until you distinguish between «right» and «left» emotionality, you will never figure out whether emotions are good or bad. Really, what about emotions? On the one hand, they give energy and colors of life, they help us understand each other’s state, they inspire, infect and fascinate… On the other hand, emotions prevent us from thinking, involve us in all kinds of nonsense, push us to make mistakes… It looks like what to talk about emotionality « in general” is not entirely correct, since two completely different things are called by this word.

Look at the top picture. In the middle is a person, to the left and right of him are emotions. Emotions on the left, left emotions are those that make a person do this or that, which are the cause of his actions, thoughts and emotions. But the emotions on the right, right emotions are those caused by the person himself, his mind and will.

You decide to be angry — you are angry. If you decide to forgive and be benevolent, you smile and be benevolent.

When a person is the cause, and his emotions are the effect, everything is right. When the source is the human mind, and emotions are its tool, it’s great. Such emotions are good. Such emotions are perfectly developed in women, this is the basis of emotional intelligence, and this is often what many men lack so much …

Therefore, when emotions and emotionality are understood as the strength of temperament and emotional expressiveness, emotions are wonderful. High energy of emotions, expressive gestures and strength of temperament are a useful tool and a successful personality trait, since they are easily combined with the rationality of decisions and behavior.

But left emotions are different, namely the inability to control oneself.

You wanted to get angry, but they smiled at you, and you forgot about your decision … You decided to forgive and be benevolent, but inside everything is bubbling, against your will, you speak sharply, accuse and reproach.

This is a tendency to thoughtlessly throw out feelings, complain unhappily and hysteria.

What can I do? Emotions overwhelmed me!

Similarly, impressionability and impulsive response as a manifestation of emotionality is not joy, but a problematic feature and a bad habit that makes people worry in vain, make stupid purchases and make decisions that both the person himself and those around him will regret.

Therefore, to the question: “Is emotionality good or bad?” — you can answer simply and briefly: “Left emotionality, when our behavior is determined not by us, but by our emotions — this is bad. It is wrong when emotions are the cause, and we are the effect of our emotions. But the right emotionality is good and excellent. We should be in charge of our decisions, and emotions should be our means and tools.

Total: Remove the left emotionality and develop the right emotionality.

Indeed, when emotions subdue us, it is stupid. When our bright emotions serve our rational purposes, it’s wonderful. Let our emotions be the tools that make our face alive, our smile bright, and our speech incendiary. But it is unacceptable when feelings overshadow the mind, and decisions are made as a result of momentary impulses. Emotions cannot and should not be the reason for our actions and decisions. The reason for our actions can and should be only our mind, and emotions can only help us when they are needed.

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