Learning to Raise Children with Joy

How to raise your child healthy and happy, what is a truly joyful childhood, what to do to teach your child to be kind, sociable, purposeful, how to praise him correctly and whether it is possible to punish him, what games to play and what songs to sing – about all this and much more will be told by simple and understandable video lessons from Woman`s Day and educational psychologist Elena Shuvarina.

Our third meeting with an experienced and wise educational psychologist Elena Shuvarina will help parents learn how to properly praise their children, as well as figure out if everything can be allowed for their children.

What is the right way to praise a child so that the praise is good for him?

All of us, parents, are very different: some are sure that raising children is only necessary in severity, others are convinced that praise will not spoil a child. Who is right? Elena Shuvarina, educational psychologist, head of the Center for Development for Children and Parents “House of Joy”, advises: praise is necessary, but … you need to do it right! “Praise your child for a specific and understandable action. The child should know what exactly he did well, ”Elena recommends. And it emphasizes: encourage your baby not only with words, supplement your words with touches, a smile, hugs and kisses. Sometimes this is more important for the child than your words. But how not to overdo it, not to “over praise” the child, not to instill in him a sense of superiority over others? Advice from a professional – in the video “TV-Joy”:

“Don’t you dare touch this kitten – you will catch the infection!” “Put the knife back in place immediately – you will cut yourself!” “Do not be friends with this boy, he is a bully!” Did you recognize yourself? Yes, we, parents, sometimes try to forbid the child a lot. But do not rush to blame yourself: we certainly do it from the best convictions, taking care of the safety of our child, about his correct behavior, development and environment. But we do not know that prohibitions are different … in color. Yes, there are red, orange, yellow and green bans! Why they are called that and how prohibitions differ from each other, says Elena Shuvarina:

What color prohibitions will prevail in your relationship with your children is up to you. But at that moment when you really, really want to stop the kid with the next “Move away immediately!” or “Don’t you dare to do this!”, please remember the words of Elena Shuvarina: “You can and should negotiate with a child. Because the child will strive to negotiate with other people, and when he grows up – with his children too. In addition, he will understand that there is nothing hopeless in this world, and there will always be suitable alternatives – you just have to think a little. “

How to bring up the need to do good in a child?

“Do not bring up children, they will still grow up like you. Educate yourself, ”says an English proverb. Indeed, children learn both good and evil only by our example, copying our actions. Do not demand from your child what you do not do yourself, advises educational psychologist Elena Shuvarina: “In order to do good deeds, you do not need to go far. There is always an opportunity to please someone who is nearby. Set the table with Mom, help her with dinner, or collect a bunch of dandelions for Grandma. Give your child the opportunity to take care of someone: feed the pet, water the flowers. Bake cookies with your baby and treat all your relatives, and maybe children in kindergarten … “After all, in order to make a person – a small or an adult – happy, sometimes you need very little …

Even more good advice from Elena Shuvarina on the website of the Development Center for Children and Parents “House of Joy”.