Children are not brought up immediately, not all even adults have received a good upbringing, and communication with them is sometimes accompanied by resentment, indignation, tantrums and other emotional outbursts. If a person close to you behaves this way, and communication between you is inevitable, if only because you want it, you have three opportunities to make communication between you more reasonable: set the format, discuss what is happening, accustom to the style and habit of reasonable communication.
If the first two possibilities do not give the desired result, you can turn to habituation, to the development of a behavioral habit.
In some families, this is done without any special psychology, at the level of establishing family rules: an agreement is concluded between all members, where rules and sanctions are established for their non-fulfillment. In reasonable families — it helps a lot.
It is clear that learning is not always possible. Here we are talking about adequate people (manipulative games are not here) and remember that high-quality relationships begin with two things — with high-quality people and interest in each other. If there is no interest, if you (suppose) are not really needed by the other side, then there can be no question of any accustoming, your attempts will be nipped in the bud. But if two people are adequate in principle and want to be close to each other, reasonable communication with each other needs to be learned. And here you have to teach.
At first, they taught themselves to reasonable communication, after that they helped their partner. Start with yourself, but don’t stop there. Communication is a dance of two.
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