Learning problems have three main roots: the child CANNOT, the child DOES NOT WANT, and the child IN BAD CONTACT WITH PARENTS.
CANNOT — most often begins with the fact that parents in the first grade did not teach the child to learn. We hoped for independence, let it take its course — and it was a mistake. Well, no matter how difficult it is, better late than never: we catch up with the material and teach to learn. Like first grade!
DOES NOT WANT — either he started his studies, or the wind in his head. I started studying — you need to pull it up, and if the wind is in your head — clear your head and put it into control mode. Usually mothers cannot cope with this, persuasion does not help, a father is needed here. Not a belt, but a father. If not, look for a psychologist, but a good psychologist is hard to find.
BAD CONTACT WITH PARENTS — I’m afraid you can’t handle this issue yourself. Most often, during consultations, I have to listen to both sides, the parents express their claims to the teenager, the teenager his to the parents. There are fair claims to parents, and we start with them: we agree that the parents will behave more adequately (here are specific wording), in exchange for this, the future young man is expected to do this and that. Curiously, in most cases, it is possible to negotiate.
There are other reasons, at least we will name them.
- Conflicts with teachers. The main thing is not to lower the authority of the teacher in the eyes of the child, to be careful when condemning his actions. Even more «lowering» the teacher in the eyes of the child, you run the risk that your son or daughter will not learn anything from him. Moreover, the child may become accustomed to blaming their own failures on their teachers in the future.
- Conflicts with classmates, with children in the yard, etc. The child is overwhelmed by the conflict and it takes away most of his resources that could be spent on education. The longer this goes on, the more the student is exhausted. First, try to talk to your child. As a preventive measure, teach him the techniques of conflict-free communication.
- Failure to organize your homework. Try to help your child allocate time and energy. Let him first perform the task that causes him the greatest difficulty.
- distracting factors. Computer, TV and other entertainment should know their place. Don’t let their electronic souls be the focus of your child’s attention for too long, unless he’s using them for learning.
- Problems with the development of attention and memory. You can start fixing it today. I hope you can easily find suitable ways. Having a hard time? Why not consult with a school psychologist?
- Personal problems. “What kind of problems can there be at his age. Just fantasies! If you can agree with this statement, then most likely your child is very unlucky — it will be difficult for him to share a problem with you, because it is just a trifle for you, but trouble for him.
- The child was not prepared for schooling. To be treated. Possible medicines: — the skill of teachers (a scarce remedy, it is not sold in pharmacies, and not every school has a sufficient amount of this miraculous drug); — you will take care of the child yourself (very effective, but it requires time and emotional costs).
- The child is often sick. Try to strengthen his immunity and do not let us waste precious time.