Joint life removes masks from us, we see each other as we are. Some women are afraid of this and continue to show an embellished version of themselves – for example, with the help of makeup. Why are they doing this and is there a need for their actions?
Some “relationship experts” keep saying that an unrespectable appearance can scare a man away, and therefore even at home you need to be on the alert – with makeup and always in dress. But we really want to relax and not think about anything … Let’s see what is really important during a life together.
External or internal?
The first thing I want to note is that relationships between people are built due to the emotional ties that arise between them. How does this happen?
In the process of interaction with a person, we evoke certain emotions in him, and he, in turn, responds to us with his own. Thus, peculiar “emotional chains” are formed – and the more there are, the stronger and more harmonious the relationship.
What can evoke emotions when communicating with us? Anything! But first of all, this is our internal state, the manner of communication, voice, thoughts that we pronounce aloud. Appearance in this list is far from the very first position.
Much more important is the internal state, the timbre of the voice, the thoughts and the atmosphere that we create with our presence.
Imagine a beautiful girl with makeup and clothes chosen by the best stylists, but in an anxious and irritated state. What emotional reaction does it evoke in others? Few will notice her beauty and impeccable appearance, but everyone will pay attention to the girl’s mood, and the impression will be formed only on the basis of her emotions.
Appearance, of course, has one or another influence on the relationship between people. Everyone wants to communicate with well-groomed and beautiful – including when living together.
But the truth is that after a while after dating, appearance ceases to matter. What remains important is the internal state and emotional ties that have managed to form during this time. What about cohabitation?
Beauty comes from within, no matter how trite it may sound
When can the lack of makeup spoil the impression of a woman? When it comes down to what’s going on inside her. It happens that a woman does not want to put on makeup and dress stylishly because she does not feel beautiful, sexy and happy in full.
She believes that she looks bad, and self-doubt appears in her, self-esteem falls. This state is almost immediately non-verbally transmitted to those around her, especially those closest to her. And in the end, it’s not about makeup, but about what state a woman is broadcasting at this moment.
The main “laws of attraction” in living together
● You need to work with your emotions and self-esteem either alone or with a therapist. Unprocessed negative thoughts and feelings have a destructive effect, low self-esteem leads to depression, inappropriate behavior leads to disrespect or hostility from others. Don’t allow it.
● You need to take care of yourself. Real beauty is in cleanliness, a pleasant aroma and a happy gleam in the eyes, and not in makeup. The same goes for clothes. It is important to audit the closets, throw away everything that does not please and looks bad, even if we are talking about a home wardrobe. Nowadays, you can not choose between beauty and comfort. High-quality and comfortable clothes will help you feel better, which will affect our emotional state.
Is it worth it to paint at home, you decide. It depends on your well-being and self-perception, mood. How beautiful and confident do you feel without makeup? The choice is yours. But remember that beauty comes from within, and cosmetics can only slightly enhance it.
Veronica Sysoeva – psychiatrist, narcologist, psychotherapist, PhD, expert in working with the subconscious. Her .
Elena Kolnoochenko – beauty expert Her .