Dad is important for both son and daughter. First of all, by the fact that I have to love them. Then the children will feel protected. It’s great when you have a strong rear behind you. After all, many questions and problems with dad can be solved faster and easier than with mom. However, the behavior of the father in the upbringing of a girl and a boy is markedly different. Let’s figure it out!
The bond between the child and the father is formed already in early childhood. To make the baby from the cradle feel needed and the best, dad needs to:
– To love your daughter’s mother. And constantly demonstrate this with appropriate signs of attention: give gifts to his wife, give her compliments, help with solving everyday issues, take care and take care of. Then the grown-up girl will look for such a positive hero as a companion.
– Compliments to your daughter: “This color of the dress suits you very much, it emphasizes your blue eyes” or “You quickly grasp new information, it’s very cool.” This will help the daughter to grow self-confident and attractive.
– Refrain from punishment. Never hit or shout at a girl, this will surely come back to haunt her with problems in relationships with men in adulthood.
– To be her protector in any situation and at any age.
– Allow her to be herself. I like playing football, not with dolls – great, jumping on a trampoline, not drawing, is great. Do not shake over her, protecting her like a porcelain figurine, do not limit her natural activity just because “girls do not behave like that.”
Have you heard this saying: “I was born a boy, but I never became a man?” So it is about the fact that actions worthy of a real man, and a masculine character can only be brought up by one’s own positive example.
Dad must:
– Treat your family and others with respect.
– Be able to calm your anger and make only constructive comments.
– Be firm in your decisions, fair and friendly towards your son.
– Find time for games, shared hobbies and quiet conversations.
– In spite of everything, believe in your child and always take his side in conflict situations.
– To teach your son not to be afraid to make mistakes, to defend his opinion and be responsible for him.
– Allowing the boy to make his own choice, this will help the development of independence in the child.
– Connect your son to your activities: make repairs, fix the car, change the crane, etc.
– To arrange competitions: who will tighten the most nuts in five minutes, who will win the game of checkers, who will push out more times, whose goal will get fewer balls, whose knot will be stronger. The child will be pleased to win once against the dad, this will significantly increase his self-esteem.
– Allow your son to show emotion. Do not scold him for crying and showing anger. Just teach him to control his emotions by your example.
The father’s position influences the formation of the child’s self-esteem more than others, since he spends time with him less often than the mother, therefore his assessment of the child’s actions is more significant. It is also striking that children, in whose development the father played an active role, grow up to be smarter and more successful than their peers from single-parent families.
In psychology, the father is self-confidence for the child, his support and safety. The child needs a dad even before birth. The rest of the time he is an example to follow. The father creates the image of a man, and the child accepts it. Therefore, each father is responsible for who his son will look like and what kind of husband his daughter will look for. Children don’t need parents 24 hours a day. Just 30 minutes a day of heart-to-heart talk, hugs and an effective weekend, and years later, your child will surely say thank you for it.