She does not like platitudes and for a long time rejected universally recognized values - family, marriage, children. But everything is changing. On November 18, Ksenia Sobchak and her husband, actor Maxim Vitorgan, became parents. “18.11.16/XNUMX/XNUMX is now the happiest day,” the TV presenter wrote on her Instagram. “I am the mother of a beautiful boy.” We remember how Ksenia Sobchak’s idea of herself, love and children changed over time.
They got married three years ago. No one suspected that the calm, avoiding publicity Maxim and the explosive, outrageous Ksenia could be together. She changes suitors, is skeptical about marriage and does not want children. He is not seen in scandals, a supporter of traditional views on the family, a divorced father of two children. Today, there is no longer an outrageous presenter. Ksenia is a self-confident, successful, and most importantly, it seems, for the first time, a truly happy woman. “Maxim grounded me,” Ksenia admits to reporters.
We decided to recall how her previous environment influenced the TV presenter and how Ksenia Sobchak changed in different periods of her life.
2000
Ksenia moved to Moscow immediately after the death of her father, the mayor of St. Petersburg Anatoly Sobchak. MGIMO student dreamed of a career as a politician and … of fame. And glory was not long in coming. In 2000, Sobchak’s daughter’s apartment was robbed and half a million dollars worth of jewelry was taken out. It turned out that the missing diamonds were presented to the girl by her boyfriend, St. Petersburg businessman Vyacheslav Leibman. Newspapers and TV channels discussed the student’s jewelry. The name of Xenia was recognized by all of Moscow.
About men
“I love different men, and to alternate: talented – rich – talented – rich.”
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“Now it’s easier for someone to find a man? Smart or beautiful? No, the one with the bigger boobs.”
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“Everyone wants love and attention, including the rich and famous. So, if you like a bright person, you need to step over the barrier of his imaginary inaccessibility.
About Me
“When I studied at ordinary schools (I changed six of them), no one was friends with me. When the lesson answered, the whole class followed my every movement, word. Because of this, I developed a huge complex. I felt that I was not like everyone else, so I tried with all my might to be closer to the people.
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“I love being friends with men. I believe that if you build relationships correctly, you can be friends with boys. And this relationship will not be sexual in nature. With men it is much more interesting. In these relationships there is no envy, as with girlfriends, there is no gossip.
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“All economic theories are written by people who have never been in business themselves. So am I – I constantly talk about love, give advice, and I myself am only a theorist in this. I am a loser in love.”
About children
“Marriage, children – I don’t understand this. There are many more interesting things in life. Children are not the only thing for which a woman lives in the world.
2001
For the first time, Ksenia lives as an ordinary person, without the escort of security guards and the annoying attention of the press, as it was in her hometown. Being the daughter of the mayor, Xenia could not leave the house herself. She first visited a stationery store when she was 14. Now in Moscow, the girl is catching up: clubs, parties, novels – either with a member of a pop group, or with a diplomat, or with a famous philanthropist. Ksenia does not leave her dream of becoming popular, therefore she actively starred in candid photo shoots for men’s magazines and gives interviews.
About men
“I like different ones, but most often – brutal, hairy, so that the shirt is unbuttoned and the hair is visible on the chest, so that he is a complete idiot, come and go.”
About Me
“Growing up in a famous family is a big burden. It is a complex for life, from which it is difficult to get rid of. You are constantly compared with your parents, and it is very difficult to reach the level at which they are. I see that it broke many. And most importantly, these children are deprived of their freedom. I’m not going to change my lifestyle for the sake of public opinion. I want to live a full youth. I have lived in captivity for too long.”
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“Love for me is an absolutely rational feeling. You always choose your partner for some quality. Otherwise, the relationship will not work. Love at first sight does not exist. Love is… natural selection. A person should be of the same upbringing, perceive life in the same way and have the same interests with you.
About children
“We love our children the way we want to love them. And the more selfish a person is, the more this is true. I have a difficult relationship with my mother. She is always trying to take a position from above, but I want complicity with my moods, and not instructive intonations. I want understanding, deep friendships, and she offers me formal things that, from her point of view, are caring. Put on your hat and eat. I hope I will be different with my children.”
2002
In 2004, Ksenia Sobchak hosts a television program and is preparing for a wedding with a rich and handsome businessman from the USA, Alexander Shustorovich. The palace on Strelna has already been rented, a wedding dress from Valentin Yudashkin has been sewn. According to the scenario, the bride, along with the groom, on a yacht under scarlet sails, were supposed to sail to the Konstantinovsky Palace. However, the celebration was canceled a week before the ceremony. Now Ksenia and Alexander are on good terms. Shustorovich is still unmarried.
About men
“What groom should Sobchak have? Of course, a handsome billionaire who graduated from Harvard, not seen in scandals, and has never been married, no children, good business, great parents, and three years of relationship.
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“I was only dumped once, but it stuck with me for the rest of my life. I still remember those relationships, although there were no feelings left, but that unpleasant feeling remained when my pride was infringed. I left all the other men. Probably because of the fear of close relationships.
About Me
“I have a frivolous image, but in fact I am a decent girl. I’ve only ever had long-term relationships. Never had casual sex or sex on the first date.”
***
“I am a big owner. This also applies to my young people. I’m trying to get rid of this feeling, but so far it’s not working. I am completely committed to human relationships. Maybe that’s why I also demand a big return.
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“I have many complexes, but I always liked my figure, but not my face. At school I wore braces, they only appeared then. The boys ran from me like they were from a ghost.
About children
“I believe that children should be born when you want, and not when you become pregnant. And do not say, they say, abortion is the murder of a child! Brad it all!”
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“I’m still a young girl, I want to take a walk, and family, marriage is a serious matter.”
2006
Sobchak hosts several TV shows, a radio program and becomes a regular heroine of the media. In 2007, the girl had an affair with Dmitry Savitsky, the general director of the Silver Rain radio station. Dmitry, according to Xenia, is the only man who influenced her very much. Thanks to him, Ksenia changed not only her social circle, but also her image. Now she is known as a journalist, an intellectual, a lover of theater and auteur cinema.
About men
“It is important for me that everyone knows that this is my man. And if, God forbid, I see someone with him, then – I am an expressive person – the reprisal will be cruel!
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“I did not always tactfully end relationships with young people. But in the end, there are no rules in love, you can’t command your heart, you can’t save relationships for the sake of pity. Another thing is that it will always come back to you.”
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“Love, the most passionate, the highest, it still passes sooner or later. All films end with the heroes kissing, playing a wedding. Further uninteresting. Interesting suffering, experiences. As soon as a quiet life begins, everything, the film, in theory, should end. In life, relationships only begin with the fact that people kiss and say to each other: “I love you.” And then it will be very difficult. Maybe that’s why I still don’t risk getting married yet.
About Me
“Once my dream wedding did not take place, now I can say for sure only one thing. Still, it’s good that some dreams do not come true.
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“I am a tin woodcutter, if I want to cry, I turn on a funny movie or a TV series for frustration. I have a stack of books for this mood. I’ll watch something funny and calm down. But I won’t cry.”
About children
“Little bastards” I can call the children of my girlfriends. I think it’s very nice. It’s not that I’m against children, but I’m against the fact that in our society there is a cult of procreation. You give birth to children for yourself, and do not turn it into heroism. Figuratively speaking, here I gave birth to a child, now let me go ahead everyone! A child is not a personal flasher!”
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“I’m not a detonator, and in some foreseeable future, not now, I will have them. I will not post a photo of the baby on Instagram. I am horrified at events like the debutante ball, where grown women dress their daughters under themselves and hang them with diamonds.”
2007
Ksenia is famous and successful. Filmed in the video of a popular Russian rapper, hosts an author’s program on the radio. Among her close friends are representatives of the intelligentsia, show business stars, oligarchs. True, Xenia is unlucky in her personal life. All her novels end quickly. But this does not upset the girl – all her attention is focused on her career. Only not political, but media.
About men
“It’s crazy for me to see what is happening now. I’m talking about absolute male arrogance and sexual promiscuity, which goes beyond all limits. In any case, in the circle in which I communicate, this is obvious, because men now allow themselves such things that they never allowed themselves before. For example, buses of fashion models for one oligarch. Some endless changes of women.
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“A man starts several families who know about each other. And it has become commonplace. When debauchery becomes the norm, you can no longer live differently, it seems to you that “tomorrow I will come to my senses, and I will have a normal family.” There will be no normal family, because once having tasted this forbidden fruit, it is impossible to return to normal life. And I think that’s a big problem.”
About Me
“I don’t like people in general. But I love personalities. Interesting people, with a pronounced individuality. And I am ready to fight for these people, ready to do anything for them. I have many faults, but I consider myself a good friend. I think my friends appreciate me for that.”
About children
“Children? Never dreamed of them! The child is not for me. I do not want to give birth and get fat! Why do I need it? Thoughts of children do not bring me any pleasure! Children yell, shit, and when they grow up, they begin to constantly ask for money. And this whole nightmare lasts until the age of 25. By that time, you will be old and no one will need you.
2010
Ksenia Sobchak for the first time was among the highest paid TV presenters. She writes books, hosts author’s programs on TV. In the list of her young people, only the rich and successful. But on the set of the TV show, Sobchak met the dancer and choreographer Yevgeny Papunaishvili. The popular TV presenter could not resist the charisma of the dancing Georgian. But she still does not think about children and family.
About men
“I love hot men. One of my fans was very jealous, he even left scars on my lower back. He was jealous and cut me with glass, I was 18 years old.
About Me
“I know how to feel people and be on their wave. On the other hand, I am… such an unadapted person. I’ve been spoiled. I can’t cook at all. My signature dish is tea bags. Also, I never washed. I don’t even know which side to approach the washing machine.”
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“Mom wants a wedding so that I can calm down so that she can relieve the burden of responsibility that everything worked out for her daughter.”
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“I am a brawler. Dad was an intelligent man, even too soft, and people took advantage of that. I saw how the waiters and drivers were rude to him, and he never went into conflict. I’m not like this. If they gave me the wrong hotel room, I start arguing, screaming and defending my rights to the last. I am an aggressive girl and react sharply to rudeness. If I get rude, I can respond harshly. When you need it – swear.”
About children
“I know that if I am a mother, then a very responsible mother. You have to give a lot so that the child grows up in love, so that he always feels complete.
***
“I have one disappointing guess, it seems to me that such an unhealthy passion of women for children’s photo exhibitionism lies in the fact that they simply have nothing else to be proud of, and they make their own child the main subject of their boasting. Well, somewhere between a rare Birkin bag and a new Saint Laurent leather.
2011
All of Moscow discusses the interview of Ksenia Sobchak with businessmen and politicians. The economic crisis did not affect Sobchak’s income. State corporations and oligarchs still have a big holiday and generously pay Sobchak for corporate events and private parties. At one of them, Sobchak was introduced to a friend of Roman Abramovich, ex-deputy, head of the Moscow Department of Culture, director of the TsPKiO im. Gorky, Sergei Kapkov. Despite their shared love for the theater and contemporary art, their union was short-lived. They say that different moral values and political views are to blame.
About men
“Men are mostly bastards, therefore, in principle, it is better to live with a rabbit – fed, cleaned up after him and that’s it. Maybe the crisis will clear everything and something bright will remain.”
About Me
“I live hard and hard. But I do not want to join a pack of corpses that walk, eat, rest together and give birth to children with an inexpressible gleam of deadness in their eyes, inside of which is buried something that these two people once experienced long ago. On the gravestone of these feelings, people have learned to write smart, beautiful words about the deceased – respect, partnership, kinship. I don’t want to live like this. You can live only for the sake of love and in love, and if she leaves, you must quietly close the door behind her … “
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“Compromise is no longer love, it is a concession for the sake of obtaining some benefit. Already barter against love. It’s over – leave. Not for the fact that you can not extend. Seek again and again until you find or until you grow old – this is how I live.
About children
“I don’t want to give birth. I do not need it. I am surprised otherwise. We all want to be different, but at the same time very similar. And basically, by the age of thirty, everyone wants to settle down, calm down, start a family, but I don’t want this at all. And that surprises me.”
2012
Ksenia never lost interest in politics. She communicates with politicians in the author’s program, conducts public correspondence with the imprisoned Mikhail Khodorkovsky, participates in opposition rallies and is friends with its most prominent representatives – Alexei Navalny, Boris Nemtsov, Ilya Yashin (Ksenia even had a romantic relationship with the latter). In 2012, the author’s talk show Sobchak, dedicated to acute political and social issues, goes on the air. But after the first release, it is closed, allegedly due to a low rating. Xenia is no longer called to the central channels. Despite this, the former “blonde in chocolate” is among the twenty most influential women in Russia.
About men
“Love is the only thing in the world for which you can give up everything.”
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“There are very few self-confident men who can match an intelligent strong woman. Men want a woman who will admire them, who will be initially weaker, in some ways more stupid.
About Me
“I do what I like and develop in what I think is right. I am not ashamed of the past, because if you have any desires, you must definitely fulfill them.
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“There are so many of you that there is little room for a man next to you. You are the master in any situation, you are a strong woman who is all by herself, and her husband is somewhere out there. I am afraid that I will suffer the fate of a man who is so big that next to him there is no place for everything else. You are such a bright person and personality that it is difficult to build a relationship with you. In this we are similar.” (From an interview with Alla Pugacheva on “Rain”)
About children
“I’m afraid that everything will change with children. I don’t understand why I need these changes. When people get bored, when they feel the need for more love and tenderness, they want children. Everything suits me. I don’t want to be childless at 60. Now I don’t understand why I need them. But I understand that this issue must be somehow resolved before 40. The sooner the better. Time is running. But I have a big contradiction between biological necessity and the fact that I like my life today.
2013
In February 2013, Ksenia Sobchak married an actor and director, heir to the famous acting dynasty Maxim Vitorgan. This news became a real sensation. The couple kept their romance a secret. Even close friends did not know about the upcoming wedding. For the actor, this was the second official marriage. Young people met on the program of Ksenia Sobchak, but only a few years later they “saw” each other at one of the opposition rallies. Since then, Sobchak’s attitude towards marriage and children has changed dramatically.
About men
“I was fascinated by his nobility, his purity and the fact that he absorbed all the best male qualities that I had not met before in one person. It is rare to find smart, and at the same time very kind and generous, and at the same time not a snob. At the same time, Maxim has a huge soul and incredible charm. He makes me laugh so much that I can’t even get mad at him.” (About her husband. – Approx. ed.)
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“Sometimes I want to be a man. But there is a vicious circle here. Either you want a man to take responsibility, or you see that you can do everything faster, and you say – okay, let me do it myself. And this is a fatal path. There is only one correct position here – to trust him and give control over the situation. It’s difficult, but I repeat like a mantra: “Darling, I will accept any decision you make!” Helps a lot”.
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“The times when everyone sighed over a photo of some conditional Roman Abramovich are long gone. Today, self-respecting girls do not sigh for such guys. Today’s approach to relationships between people is much healthier than then. This is certainly a big step for society towards recovery.”
About Me
“A couple of years ago, I accepted the fact that this will never happen in my life – no wedding, no white dress. I thought – so what, everything is fine with me, an interesting life, career, bright novels, romances. But suddenly it happened.”
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“I am a bully. And I don’t always like it. I can’t always stop in time. Maxim now sometimes tells me: think of me before you do something. I used to dream that it would be this “we”. But it turned out that this is such a thing that requires getting used to.
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“I don’t have an inheritance as such, I have an apartment in St. Petersburg and some money that we shared with my father’s eldest daughter. It has always been important for me to be financially independent.”
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“I believe that you can only get married if you are sure that you will live with a person all your life.”
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“I’m still not sure about my appearance, but my husband compliments me. Endlessly”.
About children
“The question is not whether you want children or not, the question is in the man you meet and understand – you want children from him. When you look at him and understand that you want the same little Maxim.
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“A child is a whole world that should be interesting to you, which you can share, but which will never be exactly yours, and this world, this small universe must always be treated with great respect and awe. This is how I would like to treat my children, if someday we decide that we are ready for this.
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“I’m not pregnant. And maybe it will seem surprising to someone, but you can get married just for love, and not for flying.
“If you truly love your child, don’t turn him into a Yorkshire terrier with a diamond leash, but try to just spend time with him, understand his world, look at what he is interested in through his eyes and see that he needs not at all in what you are trying to offer him. Not in likes on Instagram and not in a Chanel dress, but in sharing his life with him, with small childhood joys and tragedies, and not dragging him into yours. I hope this is the case in my family.”