The 4 situation
The teacher noticed that today Grisha (he is 4 years old) came to kindergarten in an excited state: he talks loudly, argues, starts quarrels with his playmates, takes away toys and even obeys her instructions with difficulty. What is the reason?
In the evening, when the father came for his son, the teacher decided to find out from him the unusual behavior of the child. The father said:
— I had an argument with my wife this morning. Because of a trifle … We do not have quarrels seriously. And the son quieted down, kept listening, and then first came up to me and said: “Why are you offending your mother!”, And then to your mother: “Why are you offending your dad!” And she took it jokingly and slapped her son slowly. Of course it doesn’t hurt. But he was offended and was capricious all the way.
Comment psychologist:
In children, as in the focus, the mood of the parents is reflected. If adults are cheerful, balanced, friendly, then children are calm, cheerful. The emotional atmosphere of the family and the style of adult relationships especially influence the behavior of the child. The child sensitively catches the slightest family strife and in his own way deeply reacts to them.
The situation described confirms this: the boy is off balance, of course, not because his mother jokingly spanked him. He was disturbed by the unusual behavior of his parents.
The 5 situation
Gena really does not want to go to bed before everyone else. It is useless to talk about this with mom and grandmother: they are on guard of the regime.
Dad is also for order, but in some cases he allows deviations: especially on those days when football is shown on TV. Dad is a passionate fan, and the son knows that he will sympathize with anyone who wants to share the company with him. And the sly one takes advantage of it. See →