The 18 situation
The mother asks the teacher:
— Why did the child become wayward, naughty? He was small — they did not know grief with him. And now (soon to school!) He has become different: he criticizes our orders. Gu.et, to all your opinion … But we are always very strict with our son. We never deviate from our word: if they said, it means that he must exactly fulfill it. No concessions!
Comment psychologist:
In this case, the relationship is built on the unconditional submission of the child to the will of adults. While the child was small, he blindly followed the instructions of the elders. Together with the developing consciousness, he tries to oppose his will, «his opinion» to the lust for power of his parents.
Strictness in upbringing involves a combination of high parental exactingness with respect for the child as a developing personality.
The 19 situation
After the holiday, Vadik tells the teacher:
— Yesterday, my dad and mom went to visit, and in the evening we walked in the park: they treated me to ice cream.
Was your grandmother with you? the teacher asks the boy.
He waves his hand dismissively.
— She guards the house. Dad said: Grandma is a good watchman. See →