Previously, everything was simpler: men worked and brought money to the family, women took care of children and the kitchen. Today, everything has become more complicated, situations are not uncommon when a woman works more than her husband. Who should be doing the cooking in this situation?
In a word, we must agree. Before agreeing on the specifics, agree on the main thing: «We solve any issues as loving people.» If you have a WE family, it will be easier for you to agree. If you live as a Me plus Me family, it will be somewhat more difficult for you. But everything is real, if you remember: a bad peace is better than a good quarrel, and it is easier to negotiate for those people who love and respect each other. — Is it accepted? Can you handle it?
It is easier to negotiate in the family where both have agreed, whose territory is the kitchen. If both agreed that the kitchen is the territory of women, then the husband has only an advisory vote in the kitchen, the wife commands in the kitchen. But she is also responsible for feeding everyone.
Hint: this does not mean that she has to do everything alone. A wise woman organizes both her husband and children to help her: it’s more fun and we’ll eat faster. And we will also teach children how to cook, which is especially important.
If in a particular family the kitchen is not recognized as a female territory, it is necessary to negotiate from scratch. To make it faster, follow the following tips in sequence, one of these rules should help you:
- Someone who loves to cook and wants to cook cooks.
- If no one especially likes to cook, the one who is freer or less tired cooks.
- Now both are busy and both are tired, — the one who had more free time today is preparing.
- If it is difficult to agree here, the one who cooks better, who can do it faster, cooks.
- In the most extreme case, everyone feeds himself. Adults usually deal with it.
Traditions are welcome, but they do not have the force of law. If the situation changes (leaving work, additional work, going to work), we sit down and discuss everything again: who, when, how and what is cooking.
The menu, serving and so on are also the subject of agreements, no one has the right to dictate. But gratitude for the fact that they took care of you and fed you is a must. If you don’t like something, don’t blame it, it usually leads to the opposite effect. Instead of dissatisfaction and reproaches, it is worth saying in a kind way in an understandable way what and how you would like to see (as well as eat and drink) for the future. On occasion, you can remind later, gradually everything will become a habit and it will be the way you want.
And once again: those spouses who speak with respect and love, agree faster, and live longer.