It turns out that educators may have methods that make the hair stand on end. However, children themselves sometimes distort reality.
“Never… Do you hear? Never kneel before them. Don’t you dare humiliate yourself! ”, The senior teacher said to the younger in a steel voice, when she sat down in front of my son to help him take off his jacket. To be honest, I tensed. After all, psychologists, on the contrary, advise to become on the same level with the child, so that it would be easier for him to communicate with you, to establish a trusting relationship. What if Tatyana Mikhailovna is otherwise the same dense? Maybe he also puts children in the corner? It turned out that all my fears were in vain. Tatyana Mikhailovna is a good educator, moderately strict. But my story is a positive example. And there are negative ones, which parents generously share on social networks, asking for advice from other parents.
“The worst thing that happened to me in kindergarten was the teacher who shoved semolina into me. And when I was vomiting into a plate, I shouted: “Eat, you and as a dead rat! Look, children, a dead rat! “And the children happily picked up:“ A dead rat, a dead rat!
“In my kindergarten, children who wet themselves in a nap were promised to cut off what they write from. They lined up, then at the last moment they kind of forgave. “But keep in mind, next time…” They could put them naked on the bedside table. It was often practiced then. I still cannot understand what was in the heads of those women. It’s good that now you can run into big trouble for this. At least I really count on it. “
“In a parallel group in our garden there is a teacher who got herself a whip for disobedient children. I don’t know if she uses it, but she threatens, that’s for sure. She also has a “chair of shame”. There the guilty are imprisoned, in the backyards. He is forbidden to get up, and others are forbidden to talk to the “shameful”. But the most disgusting thing: a four-year-old girl was telling others about the Arctic fox – she just read it in the encyclopedia, I wanted to share it. So the teacher said that she would cut off her tongue. The girl told her mother: “Mommy, I was so scared.” Mom, naturally, will talk to the teacher. I don’t know how it will end ”.
“My daughter has a very strict teacher. It seemed to me – well, strict, and okay, you can’t allow children to climb on your head. But then it turned out that her daughter was simply afraid of her to shake. She wore a plate on my teeth. It was necessary to take it off before going to bed – it was agreed that the daughter would give it to the teacher, and she would put it in a glass of water. Mila was afraid to approach the teacher – she was scared to even speak to her! It all ended with the fact that she swallowed this plate in her sleep. She was in great pain, her throat was scratched. Fortunately, there were no health consequences ”.
“My daughter suddenly started to sweep away the lunch, which I hadn’t hoped for at all. Today he smiles and says to me: “I ate everything.” I praise her, and she smiles again and says: “This is for you to come.” It turns out that educators can say something like: “Eat, otherwise your mother will not come for you.” It was for this reason that mine began to eat. But why is this necessary, through fear? The smallest girl, she is only two years old, she cries the most, they can shout and demandingly knock on the table with a spoon. I understand that kissing in the ass should not be, but somehow it could be kinder. “
“The son doesn’t want to dress himself. He can, but pretends not, just because he is lazy. I’m trying to fight this, but lately he has just started to shy away from pantyhose. Began to ask, it turned out that the teacher with a psycho pulled tights over his head when he was capricious. And a friend said that their teacher punished those who did not sleep in a quiet hour in such a way: she lined everyone up, and tights on their heads … “
But it also happens that children slightly exaggerate what happens to them in the kindergarten. Therefore, before demanding the dismissal of an objectionable teacher, it is better to first understand the issue properly.
“In our private garden, a child said:“ Marivanna hit me, but it doesn’t hurt at all! ” We were just leaving the garden, I resisted the desire to return and kill Marivanna. We came home, I gave out a teddy bear, said: “Imagine that it is you, and show what the teacher was doing.” The child patted the bear lightly on the leg. I ask, what did you say at the same time? The answer was: “Sleep, go to sleep, close your eyes.”
“One day my parents came to me with complaints. “You know, Lesha said that during his sleep the nanny cut off his nails on his hand, ask her not to do this, look – his nails were cut off on his right hand almost to the point of meat.” I explained that in the garden we don’t cut our children’s nails, and Lesha chewed them off during a quiet hour, for which he received a remark from the nanny, she herself was a witness. A couple of weeks later, the same parents: “Tell me, who worked for us yesterday as a replacement for the first shift? Lesha said that you left with the manager, and another teacher came and locked up all the children in the basement for a walk! Where is this basement and who is this teacher? ” I explain again that there was no one to replace, I worked all day. Sometimes it is really difficult for parents to figure out where the child’s fantasies are, and where the reality is. “
“In our garden, a four-year-old child told his parents that a teacher (a kind-hearted person) poured soup over his collar. The parents believed, scandalized, and even clean clothes on the child did not bring them to their senses. And then the child said that he was just joking. The sweetest boy. By the way, the parents did not even apologize. “
“And my son, even at the slightest touch, can say that he was beaten. She walked by, touched her hand: “Mom, why did you hit me?” She sent me to the toilet – gently took the shoulder and pushed me a little. So too: “Why are you hitting me?” In the kindergarten I told him that I beat him, locked him in the toilet and turned off the light. This, of course, has never happened. Later he confessed that he saw on a tablet how they did this to someone else. “
How to find out if the kid is telling the truth?
1. Try to simulate the situation: ask to show on the toy what exactly the teacher did to him.
2. Talk to other parents: do their children complain? If so, then it is possible that something is really wrong with the teacher.
3. Talk to the teacher, only without head-on collisions – remember that your accusations may be groundless. Go from afar: ask how the baby behaved, what happened during the quiet hour, etc.
4. If the kindergarten is equipped with video cameras, ask to watch the recording.
5. Ask the teacher directly: “Masha said that you hit her on the head. Should I be worried? ” Even if something like this happened, it is unlikely to happen again – the teacher understands that Masha is old enough to tell her parents about everything.