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Noé, 3 years old, entered kindergarten. He is delighted and loves school very much. And you, you are relieved: he has become “clean”, that is to say he has stopped wearing diapers, just for the start of the school year. But one evening you go look for him and find him dressed like a clown, with pants way too big for him. The Atsem hands you a plastic bag with its wet things. ” Noah had a little accident. ” Whoops.
Kindergarten: disturbing novelties for the child
Entering kindergarten is not always easy for children. Some are a little disturbed by the change of pace. At the nursery or nursery, they were often reminded to go to the bathroom. At school, everything is new, the rythme is different. The child may have felt the urge to take a wee and did not dare to ask, or too busy playing recess, that he did not want to interrupt his activity. And suddenly he couldn’t hold back.
At school, he peed in his underpants: how to react
Mostly, don’t scold your child. But on the contrary, explain to him that this accident does not call into question the fact that he is clean. And tell him that it can happen to anyone. ” Accident is always possible, even when the child is clean, because he walks with emotionality Reassures Didier Rabain, a child psychiatrist at the Vivaldi Early Childhood and Parenting Unit at the Pitié-Salpêtrière Hospital in Paris. “All it takes is any thought in his head, a stress or something he couldn’t stand, for his body to manifests his emotions. Above all, it is necessary reassure him about this little accident, and also in relation to what we have been able to tell him. Sometimes at school someone will have made an unpleasant remark to him. Then talk to him, to try to understand what happened and to help him put words on what he went through. »
Pee accident at school: when to consult?
If the accident still repeats itself from time to time in the first months school, don’t worry, the toilet training process is about to end. On the other hand, if the accident is repeated over the longer term, you can take her for consultation from a pediatrician or child psychiatrist. “ We talk with the child to try to understand, continues the specialist. This relapse can come from a separation problem or a conflict between the parents … », Explains Didier Rabain. If the child pees regularly at school when it never happens at night, it can be assumed that there is a problem with the school dynamics. Here too, a consultation can be useful with the pediatrician or child psychiatrist.
And if accidents multiply, day and night, they can be the symptom of a disease, a malformation or dysfunction, in particular a vesicoureteric reflux. There, a consultation with the doctor is necessary quickly.
Auteur: Laure Salamon