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If your man starts drinking, you need to do something. Here is my study paper, where I gave versions of letters from my wife to her husband. In fact, it is not so important whether it will be a letter or a conversation, the main thing is to know what and how we want to say. Any conversation should be prepared, and writing down your future conversation as a letter is very useful. So, one letter (as a future conversation) is soft, another letter (another version of the conversation) is hard. Useful — I’ll be glad. If you share your experience, it means that we will overcome this common misfortune faster with joint efforts.
«soft» option
My favorite!
I want to tell you from the bottom of my heart, you are very dear to me, I love you very much. I always believed that we would live happily ever after.
Now you have a difficult streak in life, and you started drinking. I understand that you spend a lot of energy at work, you love and appreciate it very much, it occupies a significant place in your life. You yourself created this team, developed the material and technical base, brought management to the first place in the trust. I understand that it is difficult for you to accept the position of the chief manager of the trust, its principles of leadership, its vision of your development, direction of activity. You are nervous and worried, and it is true that alcohol helps you relax and forget.
But. But your drinking becomes regular, you start getting used to alcohol. Without it, you are already uncomfortable, without it you become withdrawn and gloomy. In fact, you are already depressed. Did you notice it too? You lose your physical form, destroy your health, forget about me and communicate less and less with children. We stopped walking together, going to visit, going out into nature. You are destroying yourself, you are essentially abandoning me and depriving our children of a father they could be proud of.
You’re wrong. Alcohol is not a solution to problems, but something that multiplies them. It does not suppress depression, but creates it. I suggest you give up alcohol and look for any reasonable solution. There are options. You are a highly qualified specialist and an excellent leader, you will always be in demand at other enterprises. You can create your own enterprise, you are invited to a joint project by your fellow students. There are options, but only on one condition — no more alcohol. Fully. None.
I love you and am ready to help you in everything. I am ready to meet you positive and joyful, to cook your favorite dishes, to be more attentive to your requests, to spend the weekend with my family. I will do everything to have you.
We can have joy and happiness. I need you. Our children need you. Dear, my beloved man, we really hope for you.
What decision will you make?
«Hard» option
Listen, I was thinking: do I need it?
You have me specifically turn into an alcoholic. I fell in love with a wonderful man, and you’re killing him. I will not live with an alcoholic — that’s for sure, but then why get a divorce after many years of torment, when you can cut everything off at once? What do you think?
Do you choose me or the booze? Drink or me?
Dad, I’ll ask you to choose: either you tie, or my dad is no more. If you drink, you are killing yourself, and you will kill yourself soon, and I will not maintain contact with someone who kills my father. Write to me, please, your decision: DO YOU STOP — or are you leaving our life?