Despite the abundance of information, we still have a lot of prejudices that can complicate intimate life. Let’s analyze one of these dissenting opinions.
To think that we cannot do without sex means to believe that sexual impulses, having no outlet, can harm us, become dangerous. Let us recall how the doctors of the Middle Ages tried to rid the body of “bad blood” by bloodletting, which they considered the cause of all diseases, bodily and mental.
Do we, like animals in the rut period, absolutely have to satisfy our reproductive instinct? But if they are driven only by the need to preserve the species, then people have developed the ability to create relationships. And this gives them the opportunity to choose whether to make love or not.
Our sexual impulses are not always translated into action. So, by the age of two or three, the child discovers sexual impulses with interest, which often leads to masturbation. By the age of six, they are suppressed, and the child can direct his curiosity to something else (study, sports).
Sexual function is not vital. But it gives us the desire to live and helps us to know ourselves.
In adolescence, due to the release of hormones, sexuality again comes to the fore, but this does not mean that all teenagers rush at each other. For them, this is a time of waiting and mastering sexuality.
Adults can also “muffle” it or consciously force it out of life: for example, not being able to realize it, being ashamed or afraid of something, or maybe transforming its energy into creativity.
Of course, it is a pity not to use all the opportunities given to us by nature. But unlike breathing or eating, sexual function is not vital. But it gives us the desire to live and helps us to know ourselves – so why give it up? Why do some couples neglect it? What dangerous contradiction does it enter into with the senses?
You need to look for answers to these questions only in yourself – only this will help to understand why our body is silent.
Be that as it may, you should never make love because “it’s supposed to be” or just because the other person wants it that way. This decision concerns only ourselves.