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Is it possible to take a boy to the women’s toilet and locker room in the gym
Children spend most of their time with their mother. And you have to take it with you everywhere, sometimes even to the locker room and toilet.
The Internet is full of outraged stories on this topic. “He already sees everything, understands everything, examines how women dress up, they don’t know what to do with their eyes, and at least henna for mom!” – writes Anna, who had to change at the gym with a boy of about five years old. Mom, according to the girl, in the situation did not see anything “like that”: well, this is a child, well, he is small. We decided to look into the situation in more detail – is it normal for a boy to suddenly find himself in a place intended only for women.
Story 1. “It will be necessary to go to the bathhouse – let’s go to the bathhouse”
“I am raising a child alone. There is no one to leave with, no one to ask to insure. Therefore, we have a common gym: he goes to gymnastics, and in the meantime I go to the gym. Then I pick him up from the section, change clothes and go to change clothes myself. The boy is four years old. Where will I put it? Of course, he sits with me in the locker room, waiting. He is not looking at anyone, sitting in his tablet. I’m not worried about this. We’ll have to go to the bathhouse – let’s go to the bathhouse, ”says Alena, the mother of four-year-old Ilya.
Alena’s position was controversial. Still, not everyone is so light on the issue of nudity in public. In the common locker room, even in front of other girls, many are embarrassed to undress. And here is someone else’s child, who looks around with obvious curiosity. “The boy could have waited in the children’s room, almost any gym has such an opportunity. You can even leave him in the lobby so that the girls at the reception will look after him – if he is so meek, sits in his tablet, he will wait 10 minutes for his mother. And it is hardly useful for a boy to look at naked strangers from a young age, ”Alena’s opponents believe.
“There is nothing particularly scary that the boy was spying on women, no. Although, of course, everything depends on the individual psychological characteristics of a person and on the age of the child. Boys have always loved to spy on women in baths, this is a normal curiosity. But from the age of 11-12 and older, I would advise you not to give your child unnecessary impressions from looking at a crowd of naked women. But here the question is more that women do not like the presence of a man in the locker room, albeit a small one. I would also not recommend creating a scandal, creating an unhealthy excitement around the sex difference, ”says Ivan Cherkasov, a child psychologist, a specialist in working with difficult teenagers.
Story 2. “It’s too scary to let go of one”
“I don’t like these things. I go into the women’s toilet, you never know what I need there: pull up my skirt, tighten my tights. And then this madam comes in with her son. He says that some suspicious types are spinning in a man’s, it’s scary to leave a child alone with some strange men. Do you see pedophiles everywhere already? So will he be led to the toilet by the handle until he is eighteen? ” – a visitor of the shopping center is indignant at the behavior of the mother of six-year-old Timofey.
It’s even a little strange, but not everyone supported the indignant girl: “What is the problem in the booth to lift the skirt up? In front of the sinks, the child will not see anything superfluous, no need to talk nonsense. “
Even the girl’s dad came, who is facing a similar problem. “I go with my daughter to the women’s toilet, yes. They look askance at me, but do not resent me. Firstly, at the entrance you really won’t see anything superfluous, everyone does their business in booths. Secondly, imagine that I take her to the men’s room. There, by the way, there are also urinals, no doors, no booths. I would not want my daughter to get to know the male anatomy like this, ”writes Mikhail, father of five-year-old Vika.
“A mother has the right to take her son under the age of five to such places with her, especially if she has no options with whom to leave the child. Until the age of five, a child is strongly attached to his mother and is better than a traumatic separation. Especially if she does not see anything wrong with it. At this age, the mother’s perception of what is happening is important for the child. It’s another matter if a scandal breaks out – this is also not useful for the child’s psyche. In this case, it is better to find a compromise, ”says child psychologist Anastasia Kusmartseva.
Interview
Do you think it is worth taking the boy with you to the locker room?
No. It is impolite to other women in the dressing room.
Yes, if you don’t leave with anyone.
No. Still, the picture is not for children’s eyes.
Of course, what’s wrong with that? What is natural is not ugly.
And earlier in the villages everyone washed in the bath together, with the whole family. And nobody died.