Many single women who have overcome the fifty-year milestone put an end to their personal lives. Convincing themselves that dates are for the young, they are left to suffer alone. What if finding a man in adulthood is easier than in youth? We tell you what advantages of older age turn dating into pleasure and what nuances appear.
“I realized that all men over fifty are crazy! — Maria jokes, she recently divorced. — At the age of 56, having parted with my husband, with whom I lived for many years, I began to look for a new life partner. At first, I was frightened by the thought that youth was gone and now it’s too late to arrange a personal life. Over time, I realized that these fears are unfounded and dating men at 20 and at 50 are about the same. More precisely, I realized that it’s easier to start a relationship now.”
When you’re young and trying to get to know each other, there are a lot of worries: children, shared finances, the prospect of spending your whole life with this person. With age, problems disappear: children start families, a stable income eliminates the need to pool finances. In adulthood, finding a partner turns into pleasure. You don’t have to think about how you will raise your children. You are not looking for someone to provide for you. It is only important whether he treats you well, whether you are comfortable.
The Internet simplifies everything, as if you are looking for a companion in an online store
Having met single men of age, the heroine drew conclusions:
- Older people are more open and ready to discuss any topic. Everyone loves to talk about sex;
- Most in adulthood are looking for a partner with whom they can live the rest of their lives;
- They simultaneously communicate with several potential partners;
- Many are emotional and want to talk about feelings;
- Most quickly understand if you are the right lover for them, and then decide if you are ready for a serious relationship;
- Everyone has baggage from the past, one must learn to accept it;
- Many people have health problems.
Dating and relationships are exciting and energizing. The Internet makes everything easier. You seem to be looking for a partner in an online store. The main thing is to be open and enjoy communication, do not let anxiety or insecurity take over. Be yourself, look into your eyes. Show that the satellite is of interest to you.
To relieve stress, go on dates in public places. This will save you if the man begins to inspire fear or seem uninteresting. Don’t give out personal information until you know he can be trusted. Listen to instincts.
If you are not ready to kiss on the first date, respect personal boundaries. Do it when you’re ready, with whoever is interested. Don’t give in to pressure. You are experienced enough to take care of yourself and defend your interests. Don’t let men take advantage of you. Do not return home alone with a stranger, take care of safety.
Do not worry about whether you are doing everything right or not, do not try to follow the instructions. Be active and involved, show interest, be yourself.