Do not thoughtlessly rely on what your feelings tell you.
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Can a person always trust himself, his living feelings? Oddly enough, no, not always.
Feelings do not lie in one thing: if a person feels a feeling in himself, it means that now he has some kind of feeling. But what kind of feeling this is, how long it will stay with him and how it will affect his decisions and behavior, the feeling cannot say. Feeling knows nothing and is not responsible for anything.
Feelings are a reflection of a person, and if a person is impulsive and not responsible, then his feelings are also impulsive and not responsible.
A person’s moods of feelings change with his mood: against the background of inspiration of his feelings, they say “You are ready to propose to this beautiful girl!”, But with the departure of inspiration, feelings say quite the opposite … It’s hard to believe such feelings. Do not inspire confidence and feelings of hysterical people: they can easily truly experience one thing now, and in a minute just as truthfully — already another. Their feelings deceive themselves as well as those around them.
If you feel a feeling in yourself, then it is true, you definitely have some kind of feeling. Feelings don’t lie in this. However, caution is needed here — you can not always be sure what exactly you feel. What is sometimes experienced by a person as a certain feeling may not be it, it may be something else. At this particular point, feelings sometimes lie
Many women do not know how and do not want to live without feelings, inventing them for themselves and others many times a day for any reason. In addition to notions, there are benefits, and in addition to genuine ones, there are “racket feelings”. For all these reasons, realistic people suggest being more attentive to statements of feelings and seeing concoctions, arbitrary interpretations where there may not be any basis for them.
In Gestalt therapy, feelings are treated not only attentively, but also with suspicious caution, which is why many «so-called feelings» for the Gestalt therapist are only labels and interpretations of something more real that is happening in the body.
It is customary to formulate it like this: “When I think about you, my breath is blocked in my chest, there is heaviness between the shoulder blades, I clench my fists, and the thought appears to avoid meeting you. And I still want to feel sorry for you. I interpret it as guilt.»
So that people do not get confused in feelings, so that people do not mistake one feeling for another and less invent feelings where they actually do not exist, composing racket feelings, many psychologists offer a dictionary of real feelings and a method for recognizing them.