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Girls start having sex later than boys? Do women have less sex than men? In our time, all this is nothing more than obsolete stereotypes. Over the past half century, the beautiful half of humanity has overcome a huge number of taboos and prejudices associated with sex with incredible speed.
According to studies conducted in France during the period 1970-2010, sexual relations between men and women have become more equal1. So, the age of entry into sexual activity is now the same for both boys and girls – 17-18 years (in the middle of the last century, women started 4 years later). Regardless of gender, most of us go through a period of “active sexual seeking” during adolescence. In terms of the number of sexual partners in a lifetime, women are also rapidly catching up with men. At the end of the last century, they called the number 2 in the questionnaires, in 2006 – already 4. The figure for men during this time remained the same – 11. Sexual appetites also “leveled off”. In the 70s, judging by the data of the questionnaires, in the vast majority of cases, the initiators of sex were men, now partners in a couple, as a rule, make decisions together.
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In the 70s, few women over 50 who were married or in a permanent relationship reported on questionnaires that they had regular sex. Today, 77% of the fair sex aged 50-69 have a partner, and 86% of these women have an active sex life.
In contrast to similar sexual experiences, the concept of male and female sexuality in our minds is still far from equal: more than 60% of men and 75% of women believe that “by nature, men have a stronger desire for sex.” At the same time, men are twice as likely as women to indicate in questionnaires that they consider it normal to have sexual intercourse “without love”, only to satisfy physical needs.
According to experts, these beliefs reflect the gender hierarchy of sexuality: in it, men do not have the opportunity to resist their natural impulses, and women are forced to play the role of the guardian of love and relationships, which should provide for the needs of a man. The idea that our sexual behavior is determined by nature and the laws of biology is still widespread, although numerous studies show that human sexual norms and behavior depend on the society and cultural environment in which he grows up. First of all, our sexual behavior is influenced by the historical and political way of life. A striking example is the invention of contraception, which turned the idea of uXNUMXbuXNUMXbfemale sexuality upside down. Sexual intercourse has ceased to be reduced only to the reproductive function.
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Another illustrative stereotype that needs to be dispelled is cited by researcher Naomi Wolf in her book The Beauty Myth: “Men are conditioned to think that a woman’s body excites much more than her personality. Therefore, “men love with their eyes, women with their ears.” Men are sexually aroused by the sight of a woman’s body and, to a much lesser extent, by the personality of a woman, because they are taught from childhood to this kind of reaction. And women react less to visual stimuli and more to emotional stimuli because they are brought up that way. This asymmetry in sex education supports the power of men in the myth of beauty: they look at women’s bodies, evaluate them and move on, and their bodies are not looked at, they are not appreciated, they are not accepted or rejected … but even if you are in a certain way brought up, this does not mean that you cannot abandon the lessons previously learned.
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