Intergalactic translator

There are various international languages ​​on our planet. In addition to language differences, there are different manners and styles of communication. People can speak: calmly and restrainedly, irritably and excitedly, constrainedly and confidently. Someone speaks quietly, and someone loudly, abruptly and in a singsong voice. Manners of communication are respectful, dismissive, playful, serious, embittered and benevolent. The words used by people in communication can also be different.

For example: the child is spinning at dinner and talking loudly. What and how should I say to him to calm him down?

— Please don’t talk at the table.

— Stop talking immediately

— Shut up now

Whoever says a word will be without a second. Whoever pronounces the word aloud will not receive compote

— Shut your mouth quickly

— stop shaking

Or worse, «Shut up.»

Which of the options would you prefer in addressing the child? And which of the options are you ready to hear addressed to yourself? What if you are still a child yourself? People who say goo don’t really always want to hurt or hurt another person. Some people just don’t know how. Perhaps this is how their parents talked to them, and this manner of communication became a habit with them and became the norm.

What to do? Yes, everything is very simple:. That is, when we hear: “Quickly, shut your mouth,” we immediately translate: “Please, be quiet for a while. Thanks!».

I recently encountered a situation of gu.e.go communication. Summer, time to relax. So in our kindergarten, the teachers went on vacation, and a substitute teacher was put in their place. My child is always happy to go to kindergarten, but after one day of communication with a new teacher, I took the child very upset and in tears:

— I don’t want to go to the kindergarten to this teacher. She is such a goo and yells at us all the time. I will go to the garden only when my teachers return.

The child was really very upset. I hugged him, pressed him to me and kissed him lovingly on the head. Mentally, I began to think about the situation; perhaps my child is exaggerating, maybe he really indulged and the teacher was forced to be strict; perhaps someone was a hooligan, but the teacher did not figure it out, and my son got it; maybe the teacher is really sharp and gu.e.ya. I did not tell my child about my thoughts, I needed time to confirm or refute the information received. I listened with attention and warmth to the child and shared his feelings with him, voicing it like this: “I know that it is unpleasant when you have a gee and they shout at you. I understand your frustration.» When the child calmed down, I persuaded him to go to the garden for another day. Thus, I had time to think about this incident, and to check the veracity. I decided not to talk with the teacher yet, but suddenly it was a simple misunderstanding and an isolated case of gu.e.sti.

The next day, the child no longer sobbed, but was categorically determined not to go to kindergarten until the return of permanent teachers. He said that the new teacher yells at all the children in general and often. Well, I myself talked with the teacher on abstract topics: indeed, her voice is gooey and her manner of communication is sharp. On the one hand, this is sad, on the other, it’s rather good, because there is nothing personal in her address to my son, it’s just her habit of communicating with all people in this way. And my son’s feelings are simply because my son was faced with such a manner of speaking — for the first time.

I was faced with the task of how to tell a child that people speak differently? How to set him up to go to kindergarten with joy? Well, if there is a problem, then there is always a solution …

Eureka! INTERPRETER!

I told the child about the existence of different languages. So, for example, there are Russian, English, German, French and other languages. But in addition to international, there are also intergalactic ways of communication. That is, on different planets they speak differently. The words and meaning of intergalactic languages ​​are clear to us, but the manners of communication differ from each other.

On Venus they speak in a singsong voice, the same as we do, but only they sing. We tried, we practiced. Fun, interesting, the child joined the game «Translator». On Jupiter, all people speak in whispers. And again tried this option. But, on Mars, everyone screams and says (in our opinion) gu.e ..

— Son, maybe the teacher once lived on Mars a long time ago? Or maybe she wants to fly there and for this she studied the Martian dialect. Our task with you is also to study this language, which is not yet clear to us, and learn how to translate it into our native language.

I asked to voice the expressions used by the teacher, and began to translate her speech into the usual one for us.

«Come on, shut your mouth.» In our language, this translates as: «Alyoshenka, please don’t talk.»

«Everyone lined up quickly.» She wanted to say: «Please stand in pairs.»

«I quickly washed my dirty hands.» Perhaps she meant: «Alexey, wash your hands, please.»

Then I invited the child to switch roles: I became goo.e. and pronounce phrases out loud, and he began to translate them as if directly for the teacher, so that she would quickly remember the Russian language.

Here is a literal translation of the child:

— Quickly gathered his things and put them in the locker! — You meant to say: «Alyoshenka, please put things in the locker.»

So, everyone lay down in bed and shut up. — You meant to say: “Children, please lie down in your beds and do not talk. It’s quiet now.»

In general, this game captivated the child, and all evening my husband and I came up with various phrases (to be honest, this task turned out to be difficult for us), and the child happily translated. Before going to bed, I asked my son if he wants to go to the garden tomorrow? His answer was lightning-fast and joyful, and a mischievous smile adorned his face: “I REALLY WANT!”

On the evening of the next day, picking up the child, I asked the teacher how the day went:

What were you playing with your child yesterday? He repeats all my instructions after me all day long.

— We played in the clarification of tasks so that the child does exactly what is required of him.

— Great, the children even began to obey better.

The teacher looked pleased and so did my son. The next day, our dear teacher came out, but we still continue to play translator.

For reliability and in order to motivate the child, I made him a certificate of intergalactic translators, saying that I received this document in a special center. Now we have a creative task to master new levels of intergalactic translators, and as a guide for this game, you can use the series «Interns», Okhlobystin in the role of Bykov provides rich food for translations.

What needs to be done to understand other people? That’s right — to learn the languages ​​of communication.

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