Influence on the psyche of the child

Avoid over-criticizing your child.

Many parents, without realizing it, gradually destroy the self-esteem of their children. They make unnecessary comments to them, pull back, joke or interfere and correct when the child does something and does not succeed on the first try. Often parents put labels on their children: “slob”, “clumsy”, “mischievous”. All this has a detrimental effect on the child.

Therefore, if this behavior is typical for you, the next time before you say or do something, remember that your words are addressed to a small vulnerable person. Try to criticize the baby less, use sarcasm in communication with him. Let your children be independent as they learn new things. Stay out of the way and let them be wrong. Give up critical judgments and labels about children.

Remember, children tend to believe their parent’s words. If you tell your baby every day that he is harmful, he begins to consider himself that way. Finding fault with children, you gradually lose their trust, and therefore closeness with them.

Imagine how you would feel if you were a child.

Very often, it seems to adults that children’s problems are mere trifles that should not be paid attention to. For example, someone called the baby, or the child is worried before the first presentation. It seems to you that this is not a reason to worry and you simply ignore the child’s problem. And in vain: in the end, the baby remains alone with himself and withdraws into himself.

To prevent this from happening, try to be more empathetic. If you find it difficult to do this, try to imagine a similar situation in the adult world. Remember how you usually have to get nervous before the first day at a new job, or how upsetting it can be to hear ridicule from your colleagues.

Read children’s books together.

The emotional upbringing of a child is not easy. Many adults find it difficult to talk about emotions themselves. But the task of parents is to teach this to children. There is a simple way that suits absolutely everyone – reading books. Reading together with children can be a great emotional education tool. Books help children learn new words for talking about feelings, they contain many examples of how different people cope with outbursts of anger, sadness, fear. When reading aloud to children, it seems that the whole family takes part in the plot of the book, which means that the heroes become closer to them. Good books help parents connect emotionally with their children.

Why is creative nurturing so important? Psychotherapists believe that creativity is vital for children. It helps to overcome fears, cope with emotions. And that’s why:

– Creativity builds neural connections. All senses participate in the creative process – sight, hearing, touch, smell and taste. All this helps to form and consolidate new neural connections in the child’s brain.

– Creativity teaches independence and gives confidence. Creativity is valuable because it values ​​the process, not the result. And this property helps to become more decisive and flexible, which means that it teaches you to adapt to new conditions and believe in yourself.

– Creativity helps to know yourself and the world around you. This is very important for children. Babies are passing through a lot of new information every day, and they need to be able to process it. Movement, image, color, line, fantasy – with the help of all this, children express themselves and systematize their knowledge of the world.

Falling asleep.

The child is very sensitive to his parents and senses changes in their mood. If you want your kids to sleep well, try to be positive before bed. When you put your child to bed, think about the good, be calm. Speak more quietly than usual, do not make sudden movements. The baby will feel your condition and fall asleep faster.

Scientists have proven that the emotional state of mom and dad is as important as different methods of euthanasia. If you want to give your children a peaceful sleep – be in harmony with yourself.

A place to sleep and a routine.

It is very important that the child (no matter how old) has its own place to sleep. Let the baby always sleep in the same place. If it is very small, you should not fill the room with too bright and variegated objects, and put toys in the crib. On the contrary, when the child grows up, allow him to take his favorite toy with him to bed.

Even more important in falling asleep is the correct daily routine. Try to arrange a specific schedule for the child, and do everything at the same time every day. This will help the child to perceive sleep as a certain ritual, he will fall asleep faster and easier.

The main thing that you can give your child is love and understanding. No matter how old he is, if you genuinely empathize with him, spend enough time with him, and respect his childish personality, then you will not have problems raising. And your child will feel happy every day.

There are even more tips for moms and dads in the books “The Kid Knows Best”, “Creative Education” and “The Emotional Intelligence of the Child”.