“How to organize your time and learn how to achieve goals?” To this I would add: “and be happy at the same time”? Today we cope with a huge flow of information and manage to solve many problems, we are unusually productive.
Why do so many feel dissatisfied? Time still slips through your fingers, and attempts to master the science of time management most often end in failure. In fact, productivity is by no means a criterion of our satisfaction with ourselves and life. And to be able to bring the matter to the end and to be in time everywhere is not the same thing at all.
For a harmonious relationship over time, personal achievements are important. Every productive day brings a feeling of happiness. Even such a trifle as a washed mountain of dishes can be an achievement. If you’re on a long-term project at work that doesn’t promise to end soon, ask yourself: what can I do today and finish? I’ve been going to buy a chandelier for a month — now I’ll go and buy it at last. And this is the result.
If anxiety, fear of not being able to do something still remains, you should ask yourself the main question: why, why am I doing this? Do my goals today align with what I believe in life in general? A time management coach will say, “So you want a big car and a lot of money. Let’s think about how you will achieve this. But no strategy will succeed until the question is asked: why? Do you really need this car?
Strive for balance: spend some part of the day alone, do what you want
Once I had to consult a girl who worked hard and successfully and was terribly dissatisfied with life. The answer to her «why?» found very quickly: in fact, she was not interested in a career, but in creating relationships that she did not have. When she posted her ad on a dating site and began dating young people, everything changed. Soon she started a family and gave birth to a child.
It’s very simple — spend time on what you really need.
And the first important step towards this is to spend some part of the day alone with yourself, to do what you want. Reading a book, running in the park or lying in the bath — each of us intuitively feels what he needs. For example, “my” time is the hour when no one is at home and I wander around the rooms for no apparent purpose: I’ll clean up here, move there, then I’ll sit down, think, I’ll still look like.
I didn’t do anything specific, but I feel so good! There is a sense of balance: you shared time with the outside world — and left a little for yourself. My research* confirms that when we achieve this balance, we feel happier.
* International Journal of Evidence Based Coaching and Mentoring, vol. 3, 2005.