Children without a father
Often help is provided under the pretext: my heart bleeds when I see … (further insert according to the meaning: stray dogs, poor children, etc.) — after which a series of active actions are carried out aimed at «saving» the unfortunate people around. According to this principle, the Romantic helps, and such help often turns out to be harmful to those whom you help.
I have a friend who has two children. Both sit firmly on the neck of their mother, who “helps” them: the children have long forgotten: how is it to do something on their own — after all, there is a mother? The result, alas, is sad: two cunning, most experienced parasites grow next to it. As an illustration, the situation: these wonderful children (the son is in the seventh grade, the daughter is three years old) came to their mother at work to take the keys. Now mom needs to go on business, and they need to go home. Mom asks her son to take her sister home, because she herself is still small. The son gets up in a beautiful pose: and he planned to take a walk, so let the mother herself take her daughter home. Mom begins to persuade her son, promises to buy one disc with her favorite computer game. The son gets up in an even more beautiful position and declares that he wants to walk! Why can’t mom help him? Mom continues to break down and offers to pay off with something else. As a result, the son names his price: three computer games and two films, and then he will go. Mom agrees with relief and counts the money to buy games. Mom gives more money — she only has big ones. “And for change, I’ll buy myself sweets!” the son says. Share with your sister! — appeals to the conscience of the son’s mother. “Well, here’s another one,” the son replies, “this is my money …”
It would be funny if it weren’t so sad. The son already has cunning and cold eyes, asking: is there a freebie here? In his incomplete 13 years, he knows very well that all that is needed from him in this life is to be able to bargain and get what he needs from others: money, attention, gifts …
When I asked why she was doing this, she said — after all, the children are without a dad, they need help.
The result of the help is a bargaining son, a capricious daughter, a crying mother…
homeless cats
Taking care of homeless cats, the woman took one (the children asked with tears in their eyes …) After that, the neighbors brought another one and also asked. She couldn’t refuse either. And now the whole entrance knows where the cats can be attached. The result — a three-room apartment is completely filthy, there is not a trace of love for cats. It’s bad for everyone — for the woman, and for the cats, and for the whole porch. She went from Romantic to Martyr and Torturer.