“If you don’t rush, you can have time to live”

«Hurry slowly,» said the ancient sages. And indeed, in the bustle and in the eternal race, we miss too much, part of life passes by. Sometimes such difficult circumstances bring us back to this simple truth…

This summer, we went with friends in a jeep around Altai. Turquoise rivers, snow-white mountains, thatched steppe, indescribable beauty! And an incident happened to us. Broke a wheel on the road. Time to night, to the nearest service station fifty kilometers, if not a hundred. There is a spare tire, but none of us have ever put it on such a car. But there were nuances … It was necessary to get it from under the bottom — and it is completely unclear how.

It gets dark quickly in the mountains, and therefore we were in a hurry to explore the jeep, climbed from below, and from above, and from the side, tried this and that … Nothing happens. Went a second time with no results. Fortunately, a weak Internet was discovered, and we found and downloaded the instructions specifically for our case, ran through our eyes — yes, we are doing everything right. One to one as written. But it doesn’t work, and that’s it.

They tried it for the third time. They already laid a carpet under the car, and dismantled the trunk … And the farther, the more nervous and vain — spending the night in the wilderness was not part of our plans at all. And again a fiasco! Well, everything, smoke break.

Rather, out of desperation, our driver sits down and reads the instructions for the umpteenth time. And eureka! The clue was not in the text of the instructions, but in the picture, which had only to be carefully examined. Which, of course, no one did in a hurry.

As a result, we lost about an hour on our desire for speed. And they could be stuck until the morning!

And here is a story from practice. I had a client, I’ll call him Dmitry, a middle-aged man. Periodically came to the reception, when it’s really bad. And somehow he says: he got involved in a lawsuit, the apartment is being renovated, two new projects are at work. I would also like to go on vacation and improve my personal life.

“Hmm,” I say, presenting the amount of work. “You must be very tired?” “I don’t sleep at all. Once». “And how long has it been like this?” — «Yes, six months already.» I see that the eyes are indeed red-streaked. «Wow! I say. — And what? Isn’t it time to save? “So that’s why I came. That’s it, I’m not pulling anymore.»

They began to understand how this happens. Dmitri is in a hurry to live. Wants to be everywhere. Not commensurate desires with opportunities. And trying to do everything at once, in addition, he spends a lot of effort and time switching from one process to another: he didn’t have time to come to work, he already has to go to court, he just agreed with the girl to go to a restaurant, as the foreman calls: in the apartment of the state of emergency.

I ask: “And what of all this is important to you?” “Yes, everything is important,” and convincingly says that everything is really important. «Can you prioritize?» I don’t give up. Dimitri thought. The question took him by surprise. “I think I understand,” and, somewhat embarrassed, smiled.

And a week later, Dmitry reported on the project transferred to a colleague and boasted a couple of tickets to the sea. Set out the priorities.

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