Indeed, who said that only women are responsible for contraception and family planning?
“My husband’s friends feel sorry for him. Like, he had to go for this. And what is it for? I believe that getting a vasectomy is the least he can do for our family.
We have four children. Two more pregnancies ended in miscarriages. I don’t plan to give birth anymore. When I was carrying my last child, there were such complications that I spent most of the time keeping it. This pregnancy nearly killed me, so that’s enough for me. And then it begins: “Poor Kostik!” Why is he poor? A vasectomy is a procedure that lasts 20 minutes, then a week of rehabilitation – and that’s it!
And I? I will not even talk about what it cost me to raise our horde. I will not count sleepless nights. But in this situation I deserve more sympathy than “poor Kostik”.
Two miscarriages, four full-term pregnancies, childbirth. I vomited so many times that it was impossible to count. Various needles for injections, analyzes, droppers have been stuck into me so many times that there is no living space. Monstrous heartburn, aching back, itchy chest, mood swings. What about edema? Do you think these are jokes – when you cannot shove your feet into your boots and you just sit in the corridor and sob from powerlessness and fatigue? I gained almost a hundredweight during this time and dropped almost the same amount!
For a total of 36 months, I raised a new living person in myself – I was pregnant for three years of my life. Breaks? Sure. Seams? Of course.
“Yes, you’ll give birth normally, not for the first time, why do you need this episiotomy,” the doctors said.
The stitches healed for months, when I could neither sit, nor move properly, nor lift anything heavier than a tangerine – and there were four children in my arms, by the way. Do you know how much a stroller weighs? How does it feel to drag her to the fifth floor in a building without an elevator?
I have had mastitis eight times. I’ve been breastfeeding for 45 months – almost four years, you got it right.
Because of the pregnancies, my vision sagged. I had to treat 12 teeth – do you know that teeth literally crumble while you are carrying a baby and breastfeeding?
And after that, I have to drink birth control pills, put a spiral or injections all my life? In addition, none of these methods give a XNUMX% guarantee that I will not have any more children. That is, potentially this is another pregnancy and another childbirth, because I cannot decide on an abortion.
It seems to me that this is unfair. Why should I mock my body for so long when a man can solve all problems in one fell swoop and it won’t cost him anything?
Yes, I insisted that my husband have a vasectomy. Fortunately, he agreed with me – he saw at what price our children were given to me. And he still loves me. Therefore, he does not consider his action a victim. So stop feeling sorry for him. “